PSA to ALL coaches: business, life, copy editing, marketing, spiritual,(insert any other kind here) and anyone looking to hire one.
The moment you forget you are also a student, is the moment you cease to be a teacher. ~Jade Klemos
I’m beginning to understand why people become a ‘coach’s coach’. Speaking about the online world of life, spiritual and business coaching right now, I feel the popular ones are not awesome and the awesome ones are not well known.
Those who are really BIG (aka not online) don’t do one on ones, they can’t. In some way they delegate it out by doing large group things with facilitators, write books, do shows, etc… TOTALLY awesome! But then, who is left to give that personal one on one that can be so valuable in certain stages? We all have a place in this world, and there is more than enough for all of us, that isn’t what this is about. Right now, I’m feeling responsible for my peers…the ones that aren’t really ready to be coaches yet…
Its not enough to just be my amaZING self! I want others to be amaZING too! I want to share everything I have learned, that took my life from a container so small that it was strangling my spirit, to a limitless container that enables my spirit to soar and shine.
Many of you know my story, many of you don’t and most of you have never heard of me. Believe me…I’m trying to remedy that! 🙂 I’ve been just about everywhere. I’ve been standing on a train track staring at the oncoming train with eyes full of pain and tears of relief. I’ve been all alone in a crisis with my child. I unlearned how to not say no. (You might have to read that last one a few times. I get it, but in truth that’s how it is. We are taught how NOT to say no, so we have to unlearn not saying no so we can understand how to say yes to ourselves.) I walked out of my 20 year marriage after over two decades of emotional, financial and psychological abuse. I’ve been at the register when they pulled out the scissors (you either know what that means or you don’t.) I’ve pretty much been just about anywhere you can imagine.
And yes, I got myself here. Here in a place where there are no scissors (ok I do have scissors but not SCISSORS), no churning stomach all the time, no butterflies of fear, no being alone in a crisis not knowing how to handle it and a place of saying YES to myself all day, everyday for the rest of time. And absolutely no more standing on train tracks. I got here by understanding how I got to each of those other places, so I never go there again. I learned.
But I didn’t land there.
I didn’t just figure out how I got there and poof I was ‘done’. I also didn’t figure out my how and then sell it to others as the answer for them.
I figured out how to assist others in figuring out their own how, too. Because, while our essences are similar they are not the same. I don’t teach anyone how I did what I did. I teach others how to find their own way. Make their own path out. I have the tools I’ve collected. I’ll assist. But its really not YOUR path if I’m designing it, is it? And that’s what I’m about…helping others design their own Sacred Path.
As a Human BEING Coach I want to share. My life only gets HUGER when I do! Not everyone will resonate with my style. Not everyone will need one on one work. Not everyone will need the same thing, so a multitude of coaches – AWESOME coaches – must be available to meet the need!
I KNOW they are out there, but these other coaches…these not yet ready to be coaches…are creating other problems. And they don’t need to! They’d be so great if they could just get out of their own way. Stop hanging out in EGOS and start really connecting with spirit at those moments!
Coaches, please be humble enough to look at yourself and see if you are really ready to help others create their own Sacred Path, not recreate your own. If you are unsure, please find a coach who is; one who is not trying to recreate you in their own image.
If you are sure you are not just recreating your own path for others, double check.
Emanate from your heart.
Understand you never ‘land’.
You are always the teacher.
You are always the student.
The moment you forget one, you cease being both.
Seekers, please empower yourselves enough to know you have the wisdom within you to find the right coach for you. Use your smarts, but use your heart too. Don’t fall for the candy in the window…photo shoots are sculpted to sell you their lifestyle. Don’t fall for the fancy house, cars, first class airplane seats. All staging. Look for someone who shows you the inside of their life, watch how they interact in their group. Do they have substance or do they just talk about having substance? Choose someone who walks their talk…
Stay empowered – no one can ’empower you’, but you.
Emanate from your heart – don’t fall for FOMO, there’s no such thing.
Understand you never ‘land’ – this is human evolution.
You are always learning.
You are always teaching.
The moment you forget one, you fail to do either.