Jade
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One Death, Two Losses
When my Grandmother died, I distinctly remember the realization that I was no longer ‘somebody’s someone special’. She died. I lost someone special to me, but I also lost the experience of being someone’s somebody special. When my mother died… Continue reading
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The Twilight Days
Twilight is the most magical part of the day for me. In college I would often walk out to a field, or lake, to watch as the world put away its daytime energy to snuggle into its nighttime routine. For… Continue reading
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Collateral Damage
I am the quiet one. The observer. I often share very little deep personal stuff on social media platforms, and if I’m honest I share very little deep personal stuff in my friendships as well. I often am the space… Continue reading
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Revising The Concept Of Dying Well
The driving force of the death care community right now, is a death positive movement that claims everyone has the right to die well. There are sub-sections within that as well, like racially based movements intended to give people of… Continue reading
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Change Is Coming
My morning ritual usually includes drinking my tea while watching the wildlife in our yard. Each day varies, but we receive frequent visits from Canadian Geese, Mallards, Wood Ducks, Blue Jays, Cardinals, Red-Winged Black Birds, Mourning Doves and Starlings. Lately,… Continue reading
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Learning To Live And Grieve
Almost everyone has heard of the Five Stages of Grief made famous by Dr. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross. Many of you may also have heard that she presented this as the grief process related to those who receive a terminal diagnosis (and… Continue reading
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The Good Death
The Good Death When I’m dying, I want it to be slow. Not slow like a hot Sunday service in an old church, Nor any Tuesday at a job that sucked my soul; But slow like watching sunsets rocking on… Continue reading
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The Thing About Grief…
Even with all its flaws today, I can see how our society has evolved in many ways in my relatively short time on Earth. It used to be that bereavement leave was only granted to individuals upon the death of… Continue reading
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Healing Rites of Passage
During a discovery call recently the person on the other end of the phone gasped and suddenly asked, “Is that what this is? Is this a healing rite of passage?” Yes. Yes, my love, that’s what this is. Life is… Continue reading
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So, You Want To Be An End of Life Doula…
Maybe you’ve taken care of your parents as they took their last breaths. Maybe you’ve taken care of your own spouse or another relative as they died. There is a sense of purpose that fills you. A higher sense of… Continue reading
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