Tag: grief
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Books
Many of you have suggested I write a book. In 2014, I published my first book, Strongest In Our Broken Places – A Healing How To Book But that’s not what you are asking for now. I have collected a few of my death, dying and grief poems and published it in an ebook. It’s…
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What It Means To Hold Space
One of the services I provide is holding space, but explaining that to people can be difficult. It is a healing tool used frequently by mystics, healers, and death care workers, as well as others. It is a vague phrase that covers a rather broad complicated idea…yet also a rather simple idea. Holding space is…
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Learning To Live And Grieve
Almost everyone has heard of the Five Stages of Grief made famous by Dr. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross. Many of you may also have heard that she presented this as the grief process related to those who receive a terminal diagnosis (and those who love them) and NOT the grief of the bereaved who are mourning the…
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Attachment To Things Has Gotten A Bad Rap
In a country where hoarding is an epidemic, while simultaneously Marie Kondo has become a celebrity for downsizing, it’s important to understand the reason behind our attachment to possessions and the therapeutic value ‘things’ have in grieving. “They paved paradise and put up a parking lot,” 🎶 a popular lyric and a popular trend when…
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Death Is Imminent
When I try to explain how I can help with the last days or even with the grieving period, I get a little tongue tied. I don’t have a set formula or pat answers to any situation. What I have is intuition that leads me to suggest things to a particular person in a particular…
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Don’t Deny Yourself Because Someone Else Has It Worse
Oh man. I definitely got this message growing up and that is exactly how I taught myself to get through some of the worse times of my life. I discounted my own experience by saying to myself “it isn’t as bad as this other person’s experience so what am I crying about?” And each time…
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The Greatest Thing I Ever Did
I know you’ve heard it a lot. People say it around Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, but this is January and I’m still gonna say it. The greatest thing I ever did was have a daughter and name her, Emma. Last night Emma and her two best friends (besides me) came over for dinner. This…
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Holiday Grief
“It’s the most wonderful time of the year! With marshmallows roasting and…” Except when it isn’t. Grief at the holidays is 1) normal, 2) inevitable the older you get and 3) more intense than any other time of the year. It is an unexpected, yet regular, extra guest at every dinner table. From the time…
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Grief
If there is something I feel overly qualified to speak on it is grief. I have had more than my fair share of loss due to death, both traumatic and natural. I lost my father suddenly of a brain aneurysm, my sister committed suicide, my mother died of chemotherapy poisoning and I had to turn…
Judith Klemos 