What Do You Mean I Create My Own Reality?!

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I remember the first time I heard the notion that I create my own reality.

I was 33 years old and had just been diagnosed with malignant melanoma. My co-worker and friend gave me the book, Conversations With God. My response after reading it was, “you think I chose to have cancer?!”

Of course no one would choose to have cancer consciously – unconsciously though is a whole other thing, and that’s what I hadn’t quite grasped yet. The choices we make and the energy behind them invites/creates cancer into our lives. Our bodies vibrate at a certain frequency. That frequency changes with the energy of our thoughts and beliefs. When we make high frequency choices we invite optimum health. When we make low frequency choices we create low frequency events, like cancer.

You might not know this but we all have the potential to develop cancer. Just like we can be among flu germs but our immune system fights it off and we never experience symptoms, our bodies have a system in place to prevent the division of unhealthy cells! It’s when something goes wrong with that system that cancer is allowed to develop – and that is where we create cancer in our bodies. Because it is the frequency of your vibration that affects that system.

The year prior to developing this malignant melanoma, my husband and I had been separated for 9 months. At the end of those 9 months, just as I was moving on with my life, he wanted to reconcile. My daughter was 3 at the time of the separation – the same age I was when my father died. I didn’t want her to grow up without her father too, so I agreed to the reconciliation. I was afraid. I was afraid to be out on my own financially. I was afraid to separate my daughter and her father. I was afraid – low frequency.

Coincidence? No.

There’s no such thing a coincidence.

I didn’t make the highest vibrational frequency decision in reconciling. At the time of the separation, I was devastated. I hadn’t seen it coming and wanted nothing more than to bring my family back together. As the months went by though I grew to appreciate the space to develop. I began to see opportunities for expansion and welcomed them. I had breathing space – which should’ve been a head’s up to me then. 

I went against my better judgement in reconciling with him. So, when the cancer showed up within a year after we reconciled, it was no coincidence. I had betrayed my higher self by making a choice out of fear. That’s not to say that for someone else reconciliation wouldn’t have been a high frequency choice; but for me, because I was choosing reconciliation out of fear that I couldn’t make it financially on my own, it was a low frequency choice.

I don’t remember when it finally started sinking exactly how I create my own reality. I know I re-read Conversations With God and understood it in a whole new light. That set me on my path to another level of holistic thinking.

Over the years since then I’ve had various ailments, acute and chronic. The key to my healing I found is understanding that there is rarely only one factor to any health issue. Illness depends on your mindset, your vibration and your willingness to engage in the highest possible frequency in response. It doesn’t even have to be a lot higher, it just has to be higher than the creating frequency. The key is to focus on the Light, rather than the Darkness. On the wellness rather than the illness.

Think of how much glorification surrounds battling cancer. There are walks and pink ribbons to raise ‘awareness’, but what its really doing is drawing more attention to the dis-ease.  They do not focus on inviting wellness, they focus on fighting illness. In order to fight an enemy you have to continue to acknowledge the enemy. This continues to bring the dissonance back again and again. It is recalling it into our lives time and time again, rather than calling in wellness.

This is how vibration works in our lives to create our reality. We meet a challenge with a higher vibration than created it and we expand. We begin to attract things aligned with that higher vibration. We get good at it. We get comfortable in our abilities and then something happens to nudge us to expand even further. We expand to meet our highest expectations of ourselves. We are limitless and thus our expansion will be limitless also. Just when we think we have it figured out, we will be brought new insight that causes us to expand even more and we can create an even greater reality.

If there is something in your reality that is not to your liking, you have the power to change it. Change the part of you that created it. Raise your vibration. Find the next highest belief and grasp it. Then the next higher and the next higher. Each choice you make, each thought you think are building blocks to your highest life.

Create a reality worthy of you.

I love you.

~Jade

 

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A Bit About Trauma…

Everything we are, do, think and believe is connected to our Qi.

Therefore everything we are, do, think and believe affects said Qi. Trauma is a significant disturbance in our Qi. Often it is actually a predetermined event…one we ‘planned’ long before our incarnation. We choreographed it to be a significant factor in our development.

Our mental, emotional, physical and energetic bodies process everything that happens to us. Sometimes we ‘hold onto’ events and they are stored. Other times we simply allow them to pass through our awareness, we glean wisdom from it and release it. This wisdom then plays a part in our development/expansion.

Trauma, due to its very nature is something most people store if they are not aware. Even if they don’t intentionally ‘ignore’ the pain, they may not know how to truly release it from all bodies.

I do a pretty awesome healing session that would assist you in this manner from the energetic standpoint. It facilitates the release from all bodies and provides a clean slate going forward.

I love working with people who are ready to be free of their past experiences and glean only the wisdom after releasing the burden!!

Short and sweet today…

I love you.

~Jade

Touchy-Feely Never Killed Anyone

The news of the mass shooting in Las Vegas at the Country Fest struck me deep in my empathic center this morning. It has brought to mind a lot of thoughts and I need to get them out.

As I was growing up I often heard, “you’re too sensitive” and “you’re too emotional”. They meant it like there was something wrong with me, and I should change to be more like them. I had feelings and I talked about those feelings. It was no wonder that my dream then was to become a therapist. I wanted to help others talk about their feelings in a safe environment.

While I stopped talking about my feelings to those people, I did not stop expressing my feelings. I expressed them in poems, in short stories and to others who would listen. But along the way, I can’t tell you how many people I came across who said, ”I don’t believe in that touchy-feely shit.” Or claim “I’m not one for touchy-feely stuff.” Or just plain “I’m not a touchy-feely kind of person.” Or “Should we all just hold hands and sing kumbaya?!”

People think touchy-feely-kumbaya people are weak. But they aren’t the ones who break, are they?

Mass shooters, serial killers and mass murderers aren’t the touchy-feely ones. You never hear of a ‘flower child’ suddenly snapping and using a gun against another. Those who commit violent crimes, especially of mass proportions, are the ones who have gone out of their way to avoid touchy-feely. They are the ones who stopped when someone said they were too sensitive or emotional. They were the ones who had no outlet for the organic touchy-feely parts of us.

And you wonder why they pop?

This is a pressure cooker situation we’ve created, of course there will be mounting explosions…

…unless people start getting touchy-feely.

Lately I had been feeling as if the ‘Life Coach’ genre was becoming a bit over saturated and I pondered whether it is just another fad (yes, in part). I will be the first to tell you that half the life coaches I run across, have no business being “Life Coaches”. I use the umbrella term “Life Coaches”, but it includes many other titles, including Spiritual Advisors. Many of these people are carefully camouflaging themselves with touchy-feely leaves whilst not actually dealing with their own stuff in a healthy manner.

There is another breed out there though. Those people who truly are looking to facilitate transformation for others but doing their own touchy-feely stuff as well. People like Kyle Cease who gets on stage and says “hey can you help me process this?” And goes on to stand naked on the square as he works through an issue with an audience member. Him facing his own shit, was the ONLY way that guy from the audience was able to hear the message that was meant for him. Kyle didn’t PRETEND to work through his shit, he authentically did it.

This new breed does deep down dirty touchy-feely work. Its not life coaching and its not therapy. Mystic Midwifery is what I call it, because it is the birth of your authentic self. The one that got put back into the box little by little with phrases like “you can’t do that, you’ll never succeed” or “you need security” or “you’re not good enough” etc…ad nauseam.

There is a plethora of transformational facilitators who are truly motivated and authentic in their practices to assist others in their journey though the rough parts. They do this by demonstrating on a daily basis how they apply certain practices and philosophies in their own life. They don’t take a template and place it over your life, but instead assist you in making your own template. Its about giving you the tools once to use over and over again. Their goal is not about growing a ‘list.’ It’s about being authentic and real, then spreading that.

The numbers of these “Authenticity Coaches” is growing. I don’t think this is a fad, I think it is needed. I think the world is ready for a change and here are the change-makers! Here are the people ready to hold space for others to relieve the pressure in that pressure cooker. Here are the people ready to say “you are sensitive, here’s how we manage that”, “here are the tools to express your emotions”, people ready to throw touchy-feely life preservers.

We don’t need gun control, we need emotion control. We need cohesion. We need community. We NEED transformation.

As I sat at a bonfire this weekend, it occurred to me that sitting around a campfire was a part of everyday life for our ancestors. It was around the fire that feelings were shared, stories of experiences were shared and bonds were built. It was built in touchy-feely time. Silence was not uncomfortable as everyone gazed into the hypnotic flames of the fire. This was meditation for our many of our Western ancestors.

Then came the radio which provided a more entertaining form of gathering. People gathered around the radio listening to the news and shows, but then talked about it. It wasn’t a diversionary tactic, it was a tool. It was used purposely and then put away.

With the inventions of whole house furnaces, making fireplaces a luxury and TV providing distraction (and becoming addictive), the organic ways our families and communities bonded, decompressed and meditated disappeared. As a result our society is disintegrating. Literally dis-integrating. Even weekend bonfire are an excuse to party, not to be bond and connect. With of course the exception of certain religious sects where it fire has retained it’s sacred purpose. And again, it is not those people who end up in the headlines as murderers.

Its time to get back to touchy-feely.

Its time to embrace the transformation movement, because if EVER we needed a transformation it is NOW. I don’t want to see how far things can get. I don’t want to the worst humans can do to one another. I’ve seen enough.

I’ll close with this, only because I didn’t know where else to put it. I’ve heard so many people make statements around how they were raised ‘tough’ or how they avoid expressing emotion and then they end that statement with “…and I turned out just fine.”

It never ever fails. My only thought in response to that is, “did ya, though?”

I love you.

~Jade

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Human Up!

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The energy of the recent white supremacy rally in North Carolina has not eluded me. I have had no words to share…up until now.

I read something today that felt like spiritual bullying or spiritual shaming and I intended to respond to it point by point. The article, was directed specifically at ‘white spiritual women’ regarding white supremacy. I had quotes and responses amounting to ‘please don’t bully me into a certain type of behavior because you think my way of taking a stand isn’t good enough.’  I don’t appreciate anyone trying to bully me into a particular form of action by shaming my philosophy. However, about mid-way through I decided to change direction a little bit.

I believe wholly that ‘what you resist, persists’. I’ve seen it time and time again in my experience. I have seen more progress standing UP for something than for standing AGAINST something. And how I stand UP is my business, not to be judged insufficient by anyone else. I think response is more important and potent than resistance. How we as human beings respond to injustices is more powerful than staging a protest.

My entire life I have experienced discrimination because of the way I look, life events I had no control over, my gender, my weight, my age, my choice in partners, my employment and my socio-economic status and even my skin color just to name a few. “White privilege” isn’t an automatic free pass. White privilege is stacked odds, but not just against people of color, though that is what some would have you believe.

White privilege is really RWASPM (rich white Anglo Saxon Protestant male) privilege.

Believe me just being white does not open doors magically as people of color have been led to believe it does. While it may appear that the door is closed to you because you are of color, it is really closed to you because you are not a rich white Anglo Saxon Protestant male and there are more of us that don’t fit into that club, than do.

But that isn’t really what I decided to talk about either.

Many POC have discounted my experience of discrimination because they imagine that I cannot fathom what it is like to be discriminated against as they have been. I have already revealed to you the many ways I have experienced discrimination. This article that I mentioned above, however, asks the reader to imagine what it is like for people of color, specifically people of the color black. I don’t have to imagine it, my daughter is a person of color and I had many personal experiences related to that on top of what I’ve already shared with you, so I know.

But people of color have told me that my experience is not the same because it was not MY skin color that initiated the discrimination.

Do you see the contradiction? On one hand we are being asked to imagine ourselves in their place in order to empathize and on the other hand our empathy and personal experience is discounted. Even that assumption, that it wasn’t my skin color that initiated the discrimination, is inaccurate. I have always embraced people of other cultures and ethnicities, especially for my daughter’s benefit so I have often ventured places to be the only white person in the room, so to speak. I know what it is like to be rejected, hissed at, talked about, shunned and laughed at because ‘who did I think I was encroaching?’ I have received so much anger and hostility from black women in particular.

The true fact is that just as I cannot understand exactly how your experience has been as a person of color and thus cannot judge it, you cannot know how my experience has been and thus cannot judge it. No one can truly know another’s journey! Each of us only have the experience of being us. One black person cannot speak for the entire experience of black people, they can only speak for their own experience.

And this gets to where I wanted to speak today.

Racism is not the problem. It is problem but it is not the problem. Discrimination is the problem, yet by dividing us all up into nice segregated factions, the system remains forever intact. The system has us so busy dividing ourselves into special interest groups that we diminish our power by lowering our numbers. Special interest groups keep the division going and thus discrimination lives on.

Notice how there has been a civil rights movement, a woman’s rights movement, a gay rights movement, a transgender rights movement, black lives matter movement, blue lives matter movement…and how many more I am overlooking now…doesn’t that sit strange with you? It is as if the founding fathers established that rights were only for heterosexual white Anglo Saxon Protestant males and the entire rest of society has had to battle for their inherent human rights, piece by piece!! Don’t man up, HUMAN up! Realize that we are all entitled to the same treatment, rights and privileges regardless of color of skin, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, sexuality, religious beliefs, disability or socio-economic status. Do the right things across the board because we are all humans.

Comparing wounds is dangerous.

Each one of us that is not a RWASPM has experienced discrimination and the subsequent wounding of it. To say that one wound (like racism) is worst than another (such as transgender discrimination) is absurd and dangerous. Can you imagine grief (another extremely painful emotional wound) being divided like this? Can you imagine someone saying to a wife that their grief/loss is not as bad as the mother who lost a child? Or how about veterans who come back from war? Do you think in the VA the vets discuss whether the loss of this arm is worse than the lost of that leg?

Discrimination is a cancer. It doesn’t really matter which type of cancer you suffer from, it wounds everyone involved and those affected by it have a better chance of surviving it by banding together and maintaining a positive outlook. We don’t compare cancers and rank them, we know all cancer is ugly and scary. We also know some paths with cancer are longer and uglier than others, we lend them the support they need and we don’t deny another’s struggle because their path was different.

Comparing wounds is dangerous. I once was in an abusive situation and could not recognize it for what it was because I kept comparing it to ‘worst’ stories. I didn’t have broken bones or a black eye, so I denied my own experience. As a result of that I didn’t get the help I needed when I needed it and I lived with those scars for most of my life.

Human Up!

The gay and lesbian community expanded and embraced others by transforming into the LGBT community, and then the LGBTQ community, and now the LGBTQIA community!

We need to expand further and realize we are the human community.

We have to human up. We have to start recognizing ourselves in each other. Much like soldiers on the field do not refer to each other as anything other than ‘brother’. We have to start seeing Source in each other and loving each other as we love ourselves. We do that by not giving attention and credence to that which is not harmony. We do that by being an example, thereby being a mirror for the ugliness to view upon itself and judge its own reflection.

The article I mentioned above diminished those who would say “I prefer to focus on love and light.” Well, that is the only thing that is going to change the world. Now, do I think the author has a point that some white spiritual leaders are fraudulent and talk the talk but not walk the walk? Absolutely. I’ve been addressing that in many forms for a couple of years now. The author states, “As my friend Jess Sells Wertman said, “Know the difference between a leader and a marketer. Many marketers like to style themselves as leaders, but that doesn’t mean they ARE.”

I could not agree with this statement more! But I don’t want to digress, lest this become convoluted.

“Focusing on love and light” as a true leader is different than putting your head in the sand like a good marketer.

Focusing on love and light for me means doing whatever I can to infuse my world with love and light, because I know that will spread. It means treating all my fellow human beings as human beings without prejudice. It means that I provide service to everyone regardless of any differences we might have as long as they treat me with respect. It means I wish no one ill will. It means if I can help I will. It means that I see the Source in everyone and promote others in seeing it as well.

This is how I do battle. I do not resist. I allow love to flow through me so that it finds those who have been wounded and promote healing. I hold space so that anyone who finds me, will find a safe place to fall.

I will keep my vibration as a lantern to provide light in the darkness.

It’s Not O.K.

It’s not. It’s just not O.K. this culture of violence that permeates our days like the gut wrenching stench of a garbage strike in the middle of August.

This latest shooting, this morning, of Republicans practicing for a charity baseball game has done me in. I’m not a Republican. I’m not a Democrat. I’m not even political, to be honest; but no one should be subjected to terror like this. It can’t be O.K. for people to just pick up a gun at the first sign of frustration and disagreement. Violence is only acceptable as a response to violence initiated upon you.

I get it. You’re angry and disappointed. I’m angry and disappointed, too. Out of an infinite amount of possibilities why choose the one that escalates a situation? The one that continues discourse and harm? The one that ensures that the anger, disappointment and violence will continue?

Every moment we have the opportunity to make a choice that either raises the vibration of a situation or lowers it. And sometimes the best choice is to allow something to play out. Not in a wait and see when you can say “I told you so”, kind of way, but in a wait and see when you can say “Ok, we tried it your way, now what can we do?” kind of way.

So many people laugh and make fun of sit-ins of the flower power era, yet things got changed, the energy shifted and much less blood was shed. Not saying none was shed and that violence wasn’t still chosen, but there was no random terrorizing of individuals.

I know the problem. I also know the solution…well, since there are infinite possibilities, there’s probably more than one solution, so I know one of them.

Problem: No one is feeling heard, because no one is listening. And no one is listening because they aren’t feeling heard.

We’ve become so desensitized to disagreements that no one listens until shots ring out. It feels a whole lot like mother asking why no one listens to her until she is yelling and flipping out.

Mother is flipping out, people.

Except that we are not the ones in power here the politicians are…or are they? Do we or do we not have the right to vote (and conversely the right NOT to vote)? How many of those votes (voted or not voted) contributed to the situation we are rebelling against currently? (Hint: all of them)

So what can we do now in lieu of shooting at charity baseball playing politicians? Hmmm….I can think of several things off the top of my head.

Start by spreading peace around you. A peaceful mother raises peaceful children. If those in the shooters life had encouraged peace instead of anger, then perhaps he would’ve seen those infinite other possibilities. You never know who in your circle is going to do something stupid in a moment of anger, so teaching people there are other ways of dealing with anger is number one. The number one way to do that then is to model it.

Anger is O.K. It really is. It’s the ‘check engine light’ of our lives. <ding> “I’m angry”, ok, what in the situation needs to change? Me? The other person (if there is one)? Or the situation? It’s my anger, so I am the one who needs to change. Change my perspective, if warranted. Change my engagement, for sure. Change my actions, most definitely.

Violence cannot be the answer to a disagreement. It just can’t be. Where will we end up if we keeping choosing violence?

…on a baseball field with republicans bleeding from bullet holes, that’s where.

…on city streets with babies too young to walk killed by stray bullets, that’s where.

…in cemeteries instead of at commencement for our young leaders, that’s where.

It’s time. It’s time to stop acting like naughty children. It’s time to stop acting like mother flipping out. It’s time to stop being a bully, but it’s also time to stop being bullied!

Let someone grab my pussy, President or not, and I’m filing charges of assault and battery. Let them try to shush it, I’ll be on the television and using my platform as best I can. If I disappear, let there be an uprising, but please no violence!

Let them run this country in the ground, and from its ashes something truly great will arise, I promise you…but violence will not be a part of it.

I extend my love and support to all the victims present at today’s shooting and their families.