Soooooo much judgement going on. I hear it all around me.

There’s so much of other’s lives you cannot be aware of, yet you spend your time comparing your life to one another’s. You compare 100% of your life to the .5% of someone else’s life that you are able to see. And truly you really are NOT comparing 100% of your life because you are usually focusing on the 13% that might be crap – at that very moment.

What happens when you engage in comparing your life or situation to another’s is that your imagination superimposes their good stuff over your bad stuff and places it in the middle of the good stuff in your life. You then imagine THAT is THEIR life and you immediately feel ‘less than’, because you’ve essentially created a hybrid monster that is meant to torment you.

Yes, that co-worker that sits across from you has the same job, for maybe the same pay, but that doesn’t mean the rest of her life has any similarities at all to yours. You envy her having the money to travel extensively, but maybe she envies your beautiful healthy children. You envy his nice new car, but he envies your cozy home. You envy your neighbors McMansion with a pool, but they envy your solid marriage. You envy her shape, but she envies your hair. You envy his bank account, but he envies your health.

Here’s the thing.

No one has it all together. No influencer. No celebrity. No boss. No coach. No therapist. Everyone has things they would rate a 10 and would never want to change (but everything DOES change) and everyone has things that they would rate a 0 and would gladly trade. But see, you can’t change your 0’s for someone else’s 10’s and think your life then will be a 10 (and then also assume that the rest of their lives are all 10’s!). Everything exists in balance.

Everything.

You might have financial struggles, but a healthy beautiful relationship with your spouse and children, while your friend just lost the love of her life. Another friend might seem financially set with lots of nice material things, but is in great debt which is covering up the pain of a painful marriage.

Be careful – in life and on the internet – with what you THINK you are seeing, what you IMAGINE you are seeing, and what you are ACTUALLY seeing. Our mind believes what it sees and fills in the pieces it doesn’t see – making it FICTION.

We are in a mental health pandemic and I believe this has a great deal to do with it. People are creating fictional narratives, and believing them to be an honest measuring stick, then feeling as though they are falling short.

Do you know what the percentage of ‘beautiful people’ really is? “Beautiful people’ being the models and actors images we are bombarded by. Media presents these beautiful people as if they are the average, but they are not! This is like 1% of the human population! 1%!!!

The majority of the human population has asymmetrical faces, disproportionate facial features, cellulite, pimples, no commas in their bank accounts, overdue bills, arguments with spouses, troubles with children, etc…etc…etc…

Pay attention to your attention and detach yourself from the addiction of comparison.