The Secret Misogyny

Um ok. I don’t know exactly how to discuss this out loud here. So that means this is exactly where the discussion needs to happen.

 

I’m about to talk about ‘The Secret’.

 

I never read the book. I had never seen the movie…until today. I don’t know why I felt the urge to watch it today other than I was looking for documentary-ish enlightening sort of things and I thought maybe I’d watch to see if my impressions of it are accurate.

 

Let me explain. I’ve never wanted to watch it because it was ‘pop culture’. Anything that has become a fad usually is not something that resonates with me. I find mass acceptance is just the flip side of mob mentality, no thank you. In addition, what I witnessed from other people who drank The Secret kool-aid, seemed to be of the notion that thinking positive is the magical answer to whatever ails you.

 

I know better.

 

I haven’t finished watching it yet, and I may never (but right now its still playing)…I’m disgusted. Really. Really disgusted.

 

So, far it is doing nothing more than supporting the notion that we are not complete in and of ourselves. It supports the notion that we need ‘something else’ to make us happy and whole, by its teaching of how to achieve that ‘something’. Furthermore, from what I’ve seen thus far its focus is solely on materialism.

 

My initial impressions were dead on. Its simplistic and in my opinion still keeps the REAL secret a secret. There are three Universal Laws, (not just Attraction) and there are seven contributing principles. (Full disclosure, these are MY framework of understanding. Other people have as many as twelve laws and no principles.) by not explaining the other Universal Laws that are equally important and work together with LOA to find the happiness of life.

 

Second (and this is something I have never heard anyone speak to and that is disgusting to me) why are there predominantly white males who ‘know’ the secret?

There are two women and I think three people of color in the ‘teachers’. How has no one mentioned this?

 

Rhonda Byrne wrote it! Why is it that we need 1) men of 2) light skin to give it validation? Granted this was 11 years ago but that really isn’t that long ago, that this should be so prevalent! Where are Iyanla VanZant, SARK, Oriah Mountain Dreamer, Marianne Williamson just to name a few? Why do we constantly give up ‘experting’ to the men? Seriously, ladies we need to look at our biases! We see other women as competition and support the men! Do you not see how self-defeating this is?

 

We will never be whole while we keep giving our power away!!! And the power of validation is incredible!

(Think of it like celebrity endorsements – the product may or may not be awful but if a celeb endorses it people will buy it). We give away our power when believe something just because some celeb (or white guy) says it!

 

When I look to see who comes up when I google ‘motivational speakers’ again I see a sea of male faces! A disproportionate representation of what I see out here in the trenches! This reminds me of the irony, of all famous chefs being male, while cooking has been viewed as ‘women’s work’ in most cultures, forever.

 

I see NO men in these trenches out here! I see none. Not one in my groups. Not one in other groups (ok, maybe ONE) and not one in my feed here on Facebook.

 

Unless this movie ends with ‘and the real secret is about creating inner peace’ then I am sticking by my original dispassion for it. In fact, heighten that dispassion, because I have this still running as I’m typing this and only more white men are showing up.

 

Ok, 36 mins in and I’m done. I can’t watch anymore of this!

 

I’m not male bashing.

Not. At. All.

I AM doing two things 1) advocating for co-creation and all that means, and 2) imploring women to stop giving away their power through their conditioned bias.

Why do we (as women) put our money towards elevating men over women? When you, as a woman, are asked who inspires you, whose resource do you provide? Who’s name falls off your tongue and across your lips first? Wayne Dyer? Tony Robbins? Rev. Dr. Michael Beckwith? Kyle Cease?

Life is about balance and until we can achieve a healthy balance of male/female our lives will not be peace filled. We need to balance our own feminine and masculine energy so that the feminine and masculine can be balanced in our world as well.

As women we ‘claim’ sisterhood, but then we tear each other down quicker than you can spit. And I know why. The current establishment likes it that way. The men currently yield more power, times are changing though so they devise things to pit women against one another if they want to be accepted into the boy’s club. That’s where it started. Then they tried to turn us into men by taking our demand to be treated equally to mean ‘the same’.

Anyway, I am on a mission now to spread my message across the land. The message of new healing. Healing the old systems that continue to keep the wounds fresh and open. Healing the old systems that continue to wound over and over again in new ways. Healing the gaps between men and women.

My workshops are and always will be open to men and women, because until we are all healed, none of us are healed.

In the comments below please take a moment to plug some of your favorite inspiring women (famous or not yet famous), include their names and links to their websites, Facebook page, or other social media connection.

(And please, watch Happy instead of The Secret, and take my self-study course which gives the whole secret and nothing but the secret! xoxox)

~Jade

Oppression vs Imprisonment

I am oppressed when I perceive I am oppressed. No one may intend to oppress me, but because I perceive I am oppressed, I am oppressed.
 
I am not oppressed if I do not perceive myself to be oppressed. One may intend to oppress me, but because I perceive I am not oppressed, I am not oppressed.
 
I empower myself. No one else can empower me, because I was BORN powerful and only I control that power, even if I choose to control it by perceiving I no longer have it.
 
Now, imprisonment is another thing. Prisons are built everywhere, often invisible to the naked eye. Prisons are built with fear as easily as with brick and mortar.

Celestial Fire, Divine Timing and Sorting Shit from Sage…

These are three messages that have been coming up in the past few days.

Celestial Fire: a period of time when the Universe is asking you to forge your spiritual self.

Divine Timing: nothing can come to you before it is in your highest good.

Sorting Sage from Shit: Once you’re done being forged in the fire and it is TIME you need to sort shit from sage to move on to the next phase.

Celestial Fire

The energy of this time is a turbo boost of spiritual growth and that growth usually takes place in the form of Celestial Fire. Celestial Fire turns up the heat and invites your highest best self to come forward to be forged. Like metal is forged in fire so too are we. It is when Life turns it on high that we really have to decide on the answer to ‘who am I?’

Am I someone who falls down and stays down? Am I someone who falls down, gets up and relives the falling down? Am I someone who falls down, gets up and no one ever knew I fell down? Or am I someone who falls down, gets up and no one knows I fell down until/unless it is important for them to know I fell down? Or a million other scenarios.

I, for one, never pretend I haven’t fallen down, yet telling my falling down stories is not something I lead with either. That’s who I am. Yet, there is value in vulnerability and truth in transparency, so recently I started a blog dedicated to our journey through stroke recovery. So far it has been well received. (ourstrokeofluckblog.wordpress.com)

What isn’t burning away in the Celestial Fire is being made stronger. It isn’t about being punished as some belief. It isn’t even necessarily ‘karma’ coming back to bite you! Well, sometimes it is, but even when that is true, it is still for your highest good to get you to see the value in yourself. The strength inside you. The HOOTSPA that is innately you. That stuff doesn’t come out until you are against the ropes.

You can’t really see what you are made of until all the fluff you’ve padded yourself with burns away…

Divine Timing

This makes way for what is in our highest good to come forth in Divine Timing. I feel like I talk about this all the time and yet never say all there is to say about it. The best analogy I have for it is baking a cake. You can gather all the ingredients, mix them up just right and it still isn’t cake until it spends some TIME in the oven.

So too is it in our lives. Just because we have shifted our mindset, begun doing rituals and chants and our new moon checks doesn’t mean when we blink our eyes our manifestations will appear. Some things take time in the oven. Some things just aren’t ready to come out of the gate yet. Some things have to be delivered at a precise moment or everything is thrown off. Ah, yes I’ve mixed my metaphors but that just goes to show you its more than just baking a cake after all! lol

The key to Divine Timing then is to be your highest best self so that what is for your highest best self can be delivered at its earliest point possible.

 

Sorting Sage from Shit

Last but not least is Sorting Sage from Shit. This refers to the psycho-emotional programs running that serve you well (sage) or do not serve you at all(shit). Its time to let go of the things that hold you back. How many times have you heard that? If you knew what was holding you back wouldn’t you have let go of it by now? Or at least you would if you knew how…

Agreed, but that’s why this is so important after the period of Celestial Fire. Celestial Fire is  the perfect time to really test what relieves the burn and what fuels it.  Does not getting out of bed get me to the next level? Does feeling sorry for myself and waiting for someone to rescue me, define my highest best self? WHO am I? Sorting shit from sage is when we truly answer that question.

Its like a hoarder going through their house item by item…’am I taking this forward with me or does it hold me back?’

We have to look at every single thought we have about things and determine if it is some shit we were force fed as we were growing up or is it sage advice we need to pay more heed to. If you’ve watched the hoarders show, you know it is impossible to do this without some sort of help. This is when a Medicine Woman comes in handy…now if only you knew where to find one? 😉

Yes, shameless self-promotion, but really you don’t have to do this alone. Have you tried getting ready in the morning for work without a mirror? Chances are you’d end up looking in some surface for any reflection of the image you are presenting the world, to at least make sure you didn’t have a conspicuous booger. I’m willing to point out your boogers BEFORE they become conspicuous!

I may now have said all that needs to be said about Divine Timing, but I certainly have not about Celestial Fire and Sorting Sage from Shit, so look forward to some videos on our facebook page and in our groups on these topics soon!