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The ACTS Of Empowerment

Abraham Hicks, death and dying, fear, grief, personal development

ACTS of Empowerment

One of the scariest situations we can be in, is the one where we are not in control. This time in our country’s timeline will go down as one of the scariest of all; A time when we had to physically separate from loved ones for fear of a life threatening invader.

In truth though, death is always in our cards, we simply have chosen to exist in denial about it. COVID-19 is forcing us to consider our mortality and that of our loved ones. Everything about COVID has taught us we are not in control of anything outside ourselves. We are not in control of what our government, our neighbors, our employers, the healthcare system or the virus does. We can only control our own thoughts, actions and beliefs in any given situation.

When we don’t feel in control, we don’t feel empowered. The problem is not the lack of control. The problem is 1) thinking we were in control of things we weren’t and 2) not exerting control over the things we were.

These four acts of empowerment are useful across the board of our lives. It is important to look at this because fear is a very dangerous symptom of any crisis. And if you take the time now to come to some sort of terms with your own mortality, I promise you, it will change the way you live your life after this crisis is over.

Empowerment is the anti-dote for fear.

Empowerment is an inside job. I don’t believe in beings empowering other beings. We are empowered from the second Life is Breathed into us. Throughout our lives we discover more and better ways of accessing and demonstrating our power, and THAT is something that others can support us in…but no one else actually empowers us.

Acceptance

The first act of empowerment is Acceptance. To accept what is, as is. Dissonance happens when we are in resistance to what is, by looking back to what was. In today’s happenings we ask ‘when will things return to normal?” But normal is gone. Normal is attachment to yesterday. Yesterday we had a plan and today that plan is no longer viable.

We need to embrace today there is something new at work and we haven’t yet figured out what it is. That’s ok. It’s ok to stand in the not knowing. In fact, that is what we must do to get into acceptance. We have to also acknowledge that we have grief over the loss of yesterday’s plan. Not having a ‘normal’ is a loss and grief is the emotional reaction to that loss.
To get to acceptance we must embrace what is, even if what is feels like being ‘stuck in the mud’. It’s ok to sit still in the mud for a minute. Embrace that. Accept that. Attachment to how things used to be keeps us in dissonance. Dissonance and acceptance are mutually exclusive. Resonance breeds acceptance. So, pay attention to what resonates with you at your highest level.

You don’t have to like something to accept it.

That’s key. Just like forgiveness doesn’t mean you condone someone’s behavior, so too, just because you accept something doesn’t mean you like it. Acceptance just means you are in the present moment, understanding it as reality. You are no longer trying to change the moment back to what was yesterday. You are also not looking to tomorrow hoping to recreate yesterday. That’s another key. You take what is today and see what you can do with it even if you are not its biggest fan.

The place of acceptance is resonance while the place of resistance is dissonance. The more you follow resonance the more empowered you will feel. Acceptance resonates at a high level. Even if you don’t like what you have to accept, accepting it will be more resonant than remaining in a state of resistance. Acceptance does not mean you don’t want to effect change upon the circumstance. Acceptance of the situation in its entirety enables you to make necessary and valuable changes.

You will know you’ve entered a state acceptance when you can at least say ‘Ok FINE! Now what?’ Resignation is a form of acceptance.

Connection

The second act of empowerment is connection. When we feel disempowered we feel isolated and vice verse, so it stands to reason that the anti-dote to that would be connection.

You might be thinking this is quite the challenge during this quarantine lockdown we are in, but you would be wrong. The kind of connection we are seeking here is actually something that has been missing for a long time, yet within everyone’s grasp.

Many are talking about ‘when this is over we will return to normal’. Others are saying that the normal that once was will never be again. And I hope that is true. Our normal was seeing a gathering of individuals, most of which were on their phones or other devices. Now, when connecting via devices is the only life line, we are beginning to understand how much we took face to face for granted.

The connectedness we are talking about though in regards to empowerment is the connection to something bigger than ourselves. This does include connecting to the love that we have for family and friends, however it has to also include something bigger than that. Whatever your Source is for Love and Light. The All. Whatever name All goes by for you: Allah, Jesus, God, Mother Earth, Goddess it doesn’t matter. Whatever you feel is a higher consciousness or a bigger energetic body than you.

Where do you connect to that Source? Church? Well, where else can be your church now? A backyard meditation garden is a wonderful start! Out in nature is an easy one, because everyone ‘believes’ in nature! Nature works its magical wonders of connection on you whether you realize it or not. If you don’t have a backyard then find a county or city park that offers you some natural habitat. If you can find a body of water, even better.

Other ways to connect to Source is to create a small altar in your home and sit with it for awhile. You can meditate, or pray, or do rituals, or say spells…they are all basically the same thing. You might have been conditioned to be afraid of one or more of those words but honestly they are all containers for the same energy.

How do you make an altar? Simple version: cover a small table with the scarf or hanky of a loved one and place a candle on top. You can get as elaborate as you want from there by adding fresh flowers, dried herbs, crystals, family pictures, sage, incense, bowl of water, images, icons, rosaries, prayer beads, malas, statues etc…

Whatever makes you happy and adds to your connection to Source.

Spending just 15 mins a day in quiet solitude in front of your altar will offer you a wonderful connection.

Connection to something bigger than you gives you power to handle the situation you are in. It isn’t really a belief system thing. It is an energetic feeling. You can’t believe it into being. You can’t speak it into being. You have to practice it into being.

Transmutation

The third act of empowerment is transmutation. The transmutation process changes something from one form into another form. In this case, transmutation is the act of changing negative into positive, and changing negative to positive is the basic premise of empowerment.

Beginner empaths are often taught to ‘block’ or ‘guard’ their energetic fields in order to protect them. This is a necessary step in learning how to manage energy, however it is not a landing place.

When we block and guard we do nothing to improve the situation. We simply allow the less than desirable energy to remain in the environment and affect the next person who comes along. Don’t believe me? How often have you walked into a room where an argument had ensued and ‘the tension was so thick you could cut it with a knife’? Now, if someone had transmuted that energy then no one else would walk in and feel that.

Developing the skill to transmute negative heavy energy into positive light energy is an important evolution in any energy healer or empath. However, even non-empaths and those without an interest in energy healing need to engage in transmutation. It is simply a matter of not adding fuel to a fire.

When someone comes at you with negativity or aggression, you respond in neutralizing opposition. Which means, you don’t respond with negativity or aggression, but with compassion and assertiveness.

It means not perpetuating the situation, as well as not escalating it. Phrases like “I understand what you are saying.” “I hear you.” “Maybe we can talk later.” “That sounds really painful.” “I can see you are really hurting.”

This doesn’t imply one allows bad behavior to continue. It dictates use of compassion to help the other feel supported so that they can change their own behavior. When efforts to do this fail, it is advisable to extricate oneself from the situation and circle back to the person at another time if desired.

If you can’t practice transmutation then you must at least refrain from contributing to the heavy energy.

A wonderful side effect of this practice happens automatically. You will find yourself lighter, with less stress and feeling more emotionally stable. Indeed, you will find yourself empowered.

Becoming skilled in transmutation you ultimately leave the world in a better state than you found it.

Surrender

Surrender is often defined as giving up, but that is not the spirit of Surrender. The spirit of surrender is to cease resistance. The essential art of going with the flow, instead of swimming against the tide.

Surrender realizes that forcing something is a sign that whatever ‘it’ is, is not for you at this time. Releasing the need to control outcomes, is the swiftest way to surrender. It isn’t that you give up on your goal, it is that you realize you might have mixed up your goal with one possible outcome, which is in fact, not a goal but merely one possibility. In other words, your goal might be making THIS relationship the one to end all relationships, when in fact that is one possibility for the actual goal, which is to be in a relationship that serves you.

Surrendering will be understanding that the best way to meet your goal would be to let go of the relationship that seems to want to end rather than pulling out all the stops to keep it in play.

Surrendering requires us to evaluate obstacles when they show up. Obstacles on our path serve two purposes: cause to pause and redirection. Cause to pause, is an opportunity to really take stock of what is happening. Is it for our highest good? Is this what I want? Usually this obstacle simply gives us the opportunity to ask ourselves ‘why?’ Why do I want this? Why do I feel this is in my highest good? And to ask ‘is this worth it?’ then really listen for the answer. If it isn’t making you feel better OR making you a better human being (cause sometimes that process doesn’t feel so great initially), it isn’t worth it.

After such pondering it is easy to see that sometimes a change of direction is warranted. When you ask ‘is this worth it’? And answer ‘no’, then you must switch directions. Take the opportunity to redefine your goal to make sure it is a goal and not just one possible outcome. Restate your goal. Envision it. Then choose the new path to get there.

Surrender is not about giving up, it is about leveling up. It’s about Trusting your Higher Self and Divine Grace to get you where you want to go. In surrendering we feel more empowerment because we understand that the Universe is conspiring on our behalf, rather than believing we are all alone against the world. We no longer believe that we have to be in control of everything, because in fact, we cannot.

The ACTS (Acceptance, Connection, Transmutation, Surrender) can be used in any situation to develop your Empowerment. Apply it to work, life, problem, challenge, parenting, encounters with bullies and other crabby people as necessary.

If nothing else remember that empowerment is an inside job.

Peace Be With You,

Jade

To A Facebook Acquaintance

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I know you are angry.
I know that below that anger is hurt.
And I know that below that hurt is fear.
 
I know.
 
Don’t tell me I don’t know, because I’m not you. It makes no sense. Because you see, you are not me, therefore by your own formula you can’t know, whether or not I know, because you don’t know, because you’re not me.
 
See, the thing is I can’t hear you when you are angry. I can’t hear you when you are screaming. The louder and angrier you get the more I shut down. The more I don’t want to hear you. I cannot focus on your words or your wounds, because all I hear and see is your behavior. Its frightening. As frightening to me as that which you are yelling about.
 
It doesn’t mean I don’t care. It doesn’t even mean I don’t agree, I just can’t be with that energy you see. I can’t align with you there, in that place.
 
Everything is anger with you. Your anger is so loud you cannot even hear those who support you. Your anger is so big it blinds you to those who stand with you. It prevents you from seeing that you are part of the problem. That anger is part of the problem. That anger can never be part of the solution.
 
Solutions live where anger can’t. Anger is not of the heart, it is of the mind. You convince yourself that anger is passion, it is not. It is fear and where fear is, passion cannot breathe. Passion lives where there is Peace, because Peace has no limits. There it can live and breathe unfettered. It can have life and solutions can come forth.
 
But they will not come while you are angry. They will not come while you are screaming. They will not come while you flail your arms.
 
They will not come until your mouth quiets and your mind opens.
Until your heart opens.
Until your arms open.
 
I know there is pain and fear. I know there is hurt. I’m not asking you to put that aside. I’m asking you to let go of the anger that created the problem to find the solution.
 
I’m asking you to BE the solution.
 
I love you.
~Jade

Intuition: The Soul’s GPS

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Over-reacting; Too sensitive; Emotional; Reading too much into it; These are a few of the words used to describe me over my life. This is how I was shamed out of relying on my intuition. In fact, at one point it was so bad that I purposely made choices opposite of what my intuition told me.

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You might imagine what a mess that made of things.

A real mess. The worst decisions I ever made in my life happened during that time period. Our intuition – and everybody has one – is our Soul’s GPS. It is meant to guide us on our journey through life. It is the closest thing to an owner’s manual that we have. So why do people try to talk us out of it? Because they don’t want us to see their deceptions.

The deceptions they have created to hide their own insecurities – not only from others, but from themselves as well. They don’t want to see what we see. They don’t want to feel what we feel. They don’t want to hear what we hear. So selfish. Other people putting their fears onto me, making me doubt myself, making me feel crazy, just to keep up their appearances.

This impacted my life in such a huge way. Sometimes, I feel like that whole dark time of my life was wasted. Our intuition is a part of our light and when we deny it we are flying blind. I would’ve lived a whole other life, because I would’ve made different choices – the opposite choices, actually. But regret is not an option, because everything happens for our highest good and so I hold to that.

Understanding now that my intuition was a gift meant for me to navigate life consciously, I look back on the dark time with new eyes. As I reflected upon the truths I knew but were denied, I felt anger initially and then power.

Yes, power.

I was, am and always will be powerful beyond measure. I knew what they tried to hide so fiercely from me. I knew. I knew and that unnerved them. I knew when I wasn’t wanted. When I was lied to. When I was betrayed. I knew and that scared the crap out of them. They would do anything to keep their secrets. That’s on them.

As I reflect back on that time with these new eyes, it’s as if I did make all those other choices. It’s like I never lost power. Never lost a step. Never made the wrong decision. Which means, of course, there was never a wrong decision in the first place.

Its empowering, enlightening and enlivening. Its a new day. This awakening has caused a huge shift. Huge. Suddenly it is as if the movie of my life went from black and white to high definition resolution full spectrum color. Now, when I see it in my mind, it is no longer dark, but illuminated.

Follow your intuition.

Easier said than done? I know. I get that. I didn’t even know what intuition was (primarily because those who would’ve taught me needed me to ignore it). How do you understand something that has no words, just vibration (before you even know what vibration is?)

It’s the parent’s responsibility to teach their children to honor their inner knowingness. If parents support a child’s intuition, even when (or especially when) they are picking up on something you don’t want them to know, then they will learn to follow their intuition. Not discounting or dismissing their feelings is the only way to teach a child how to use their intuition as the gift of navigation through life.

While it might be uncomfortable to talk about when they ask you why Daddy is sleeping in another room, tell the truth. Because when you try to hide such life events from them they feel conflicted between what their senses are telling them and what you are. This creates such great self-doubt. You are not protecting them. You are harming them.

Our job as parents is to prepare our children to become independent contributing members of society. So, even if we could, protecting them from the events of life wouldn’t be doing our job. Life is full of events. Some are harder than others and cause us to expand in ways events of pleasure cannot. It is a disservice to the adults our children will grow to become when we fail to prepare them by showing them how to deal with the unpleasant.

But what can I do now?

You as parents develop the future by how you raise your child, but what can you do now to develop your own intuition? The answer is ‘sooooo much!!!’

Start with simple things like anticipating which elevator door is going to open. Guess the time before you look at the clock. Guess who’s calling before you look at caller id. If you haven’t gone into a metaphysical shop to look at crystals, put that on your calendar. Go in and hold the ones that appeal to you. Hold them and see how they feel. What comes up? Do you feel heat? Cold? What does your intuition tell you about the crystal? Is it for you? If so, purchase it.

The best thing you can do to develop your intuition is communicate. When you sense something from someone you trust, ask them about it. Take the risk and express what you are you sensing. Be prepared that they may not fully disclose. What you really need is the practice expressing your impressions. The more you do it the more you will be able to discern when people are not being honest with you. When they give your their answer and you are not satisfied, when you feel ‘something isn’t right’, then you know your intuition is right on.

It’s ok. When it’s their business they have every right to keep it private. That isn’t what this is about. This is about you and learning to trust your gut. By expressing what you are sensing you are actually expressing belief and confidence in your ability. That’s all it needs to grow.

When you can see through the veil someone has put up, its unnerving. So it’s understandable that people get nervous. Let ’em off the hook. Let ’em have their secrets because you now have the key to all of it – it doesn’t matter if they validate you. No one needs to validate what you sense in order for you to know it is true. You will feeeeeeeel it.

What next?

Start making decision with nothing but your intuition. Start with something inert, like trying a new restaurant. Then by picking out a book to read by just the title. Maybe take a drive without a destination and see where you end up. Intuition is a beautiful beautiful thing. It will take you places your brain could never dream.

Don’t second guess. Trust yourself. Trust that voice within you. Before you know it you will be making the bravest leaps with no logical reason and experience the most amazing outcomes!

 

The most important thing to remember…

If you ever wonder, “Is this my fear speaking, or my intuition?”

The answer is SO simple! Intuition moves you towards something. Fear moves you away from something. My intuition never feels like fear. It feels like “nah, I think this instead.” Fear on the other hand is all “I can’t. No way. Never. I shouldn’t.”

 

One more thing…

I love you. Always have. Always will.

~Jade

 

 

 

Touchy-Feely Never Killed Anyone

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The news of the mass shooting in Las Vegas at the Country Fest struck me deep in my empathic center this morning. It has brought to mind a lot of thoughts and I need to get them out.

As I was growing up I often heard, “you’re too sensitive” and “you’re too emotional”. They meant it like there was something wrong with me, and I should change to be more like them. I had feelings and I talked about those feelings. It was no wonder that my dream then was to become a therapist. I wanted to help others talk about their feelings in a safe environment.

While I stopped talking about my feelings to those people, I did not stop expressing my feelings. I expressed them in poems, in short stories and to others who would listen. But along the way, I can’t tell you how many people I came across who said, ”I don’t believe in that touchy-feely shit.” Or claim “I’m not one for touchy-feely stuff.” Or just plain “I’m not a touchy-feely kind of person.” Or “Should we all just hold hands and sing kumbaya?!”

People think touchy-feely-kumbaya people are weak. But they aren’t the ones who break, are they?

Mass shooters, serial killers and mass murderers aren’t the touchy-feely ones. You never hear of a ‘flower child’ suddenly snapping and using a gun against another. Those who commit violent crimes, especially of mass proportions, are the ones who have gone out of their way to avoid touchy-feely. They are the ones who stopped when someone said they were too sensitive or emotional. They were the ones who had no outlet for the organic touchy-feely parts of us.

And you wonder why they pop?

This is a pressure cooker situation we’ve created, of course there will be mounting explosions…

…unless people start getting touchy-feely.

Lately I had been feeling as if the ‘Life Coach’ genre was becoming a bit over saturated and I pondered whether it is just another fad (yes, in part). I will be the first to tell you that half the life coaches I run across, have no business being “Life Coaches”. I use the umbrella term “Life Coaches”, but it includes many other titles, including Spiritual Advisors. Many of these people are carefully camouflaging themselves with touchy-feely leaves whilst not actually dealing with their own stuff in a healthy manner.

There is another breed out there though. Those people who truly are looking to facilitate transformation for others but doing their own touchy-feely stuff as well. People like Kyle Cease who gets on stage and says “hey can you help me process this?” And goes on to stand naked on the square as he works through an issue with an audience member. Him facing his own shit, was the ONLY way that guy from the audience was able to hear the message that was meant for him. Kyle didn’t PRETEND to work through his shit, he authentically did it.

This new breed does deep down dirty touchy-feely work. Its not life coaching and its not therapy. Mystic Midwifery is what I call it, because it is the birth of your authentic self. The one that got put back into the box little by little with phrases like “you can’t do that, you’ll never succeed” or “you need security” or “you’re not good enough” etc…ad nauseam.

There is a plethora of transformational facilitators who are truly motivated and authentic in their practices to assist others in their journey though the rough parts. They do this by demonstrating on a daily basis how they apply certain practices and philosophies in their own life. They don’t take a template and place it over your life, but instead assist you in making your own template. Its about giving you the tools once to use over and over again. Their goal is not about growing a ‘list.’ It’s about being authentic and real, then spreading that.

The numbers of these “Authenticity Coaches” is growing. I don’t think this is a fad, I think it is needed. I think the world is ready for a change and here are the change-makers! Here are the people ready to hold space for others to relieve the pressure in that pressure cooker. Here are the people ready to say “you are sensitive, here’s how we manage that”, “here are the tools to express your emotions”, people ready to throw touchy-feely life preservers.

We don’t need gun control, we need emotion control. We need cohesion. We need community. We NEED transformation.

As I sat at a bonfire this weekend, it occurred to me that sitting around a campfire was a part of everyday life for our ancestors. It was around the fire that feelings were shared, stories of experiences were shared and bonds were built. It was built in touchy-feely time. Silence was not uncomfortable as everyone gazed into the hypnotic flames of the fire. This was meditation for our many of our Western ancestors.

Then came the radio which provided a more entertaining form of gathering. People gathered around the radio listening to the news and shows, but then talked about it. It wasn’t a diversionary tactic, it was a tool. It was used purposely and then put away.

With the inventions of whole house furnaces, making fireplaces a luxury and TV providing distraction (and becoming addictive), the organic ways our families and communities bonded, decompressed and meditated disappeared. As a result our society is disintegrating. Literally dis-integrating. Even weekend bonfire are an excuse to party, not to be bond and connect. With of course the exception of certain religious sects where it fire has retained it’s sacred purpose. And again, it is not those people who end up in the headlines as murderers.

Its time to get back to touchy-feely.

Its time to embrace the transformation movement, because if EVER we needed a transformation it is NOW. I don’t want to see how far things can get. I don’t want to the worst humans can do to one another. I’ve seen enough.

I’ll close with this, only because I didn’t know where else to put it. I’ve heard so many people make statements around how they were raised ‘tough’ or how they avoid expressing emotion and then they end that statement with “…and I turned out just fine.”

It never ever fails. My only thought in response to that is, “did ya, though?”

I love you.

~Jade

If you are looking for a L(i)fe Force Energy Healing Session please email me at jadewillowsong@gmail.com. I work with all budgets so please do not let temporary financial resource blockages stop you from taking this step.

How To Get Through Recent Emotional Storms

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20634261798_657dba9441_oI’ve only flown on an airplane a handful of times in my life and while most of them have faded from memory two stand out. The first one was my trip home from Disney Land bringing back a Minnie Mouse stuffed toy the size of me. The second one I remember was more epiphanic.

I was in my twenties and traveling alone. It was dark, stormy and there was question whether the flight would be cancelled, but in the end we were cleared for take off. It was as dark as night and raining hard. I had a window seat and watched the lights on the runway fly past as we left. I kept watching out that the window as we ascended and something miraculous happened. We ascended through the storm clouds and in seconds the sun was so bright I had to squint and there was no rain.

Below me I could see the entire storm system. It looked like a floor of clouds.

It had never occurred to me before that moment, that the sun would not be affected by the storm. I hadn’t really examined my thought around it before, but I suppose I imagined the clouds going all the way up to the sun (even though now that makes no sense).

There are moments when you realize that concepts of your childhood have overstayed their welcome by limiting your experiences. This was one of those moments for me. Decades later and I am still learning from that realization. It applies to so much more than even I first imagined.

The sun is always shining. It is never not on fire, never not glowing, never not illuminating, never not radiating, never not warming…never not alive. Things like night, storms, clouds, rain etc…are all temporary and capable of changing our experiences, but they are not our truth. The truth is that above the storms, even the worst of them, the sun is still shining and we just need to rise above to see it.

I have met countless individuals recently who are experiencing such emotional turbulence and the one thing they all have in common is not knowing why its happening. These are individuals dedicated to spiritual practices and positive mindset work, so what’s going on?

Many of those currently on spiritual journeys are also energy sensitive (and might not know it) and are picking up/filtering the energy of planet. I don’t think its a coincidence that many of those I am speaking of live in the United States and Canada, picking up on the anxiety and depression caused by the mass conflict in the US.

Is it really coincidence that Hurricane Harvey isn’t even a memory yet while Hurricane Irma hurtles towards our shores, followed by Jose and Katia and now an earthquake?!?! I don’t think so. We (every thing in the Universe and even the other Universes) are all connected. Every person, animal, plant, soil, cloud and star is connected as one, so it stands to reason that our collective energy can affect the weather as well as one another. What could be more symbolic of the emotional storm clouds that the United States has been under for the past year? The division, the anger, the discrimination, the hatred, the intolerance, the inhumanity, the violence – what else could we have manifested but hurricanes and earthquakes…one…after…another?

While this can feel overwhelming as we are pummeled with the relentless surge of depression and anxiety, we need to remember that if ‘they’ (they being those participating in the angst) can affect us, then we can affect ‘them’ too!

Abraham Hicks refers to The Vortex, where the vibrations of our thoughts, feelings and actions contribute in order to create our lives (ok, its really hard to exactly describe that concept!) Others refer to connecting to Source. Still others speak of raising your vibration. That’s all well and good unless you have no idea what that means or how to do it.

This is where the storm metaphor comes in.

The Sun represents Source, The Highest Vibration or The Vortex as you will. It is always there no matter what we can see from our vantage. It is Truth. The storm clouds, thunder, lightening, blackness and even nighttime represent the challenging times in our lives. They are temporary illusions if you will, as they give the appearance of separating us from the sun, but if you raise yourself high enough you find the Truth, that the sun is never blackened out, we are only disconnected from it – and even that is an illusion.

Now, when the storm rolls in we can imagine that the storm will go on forever, or we can remember that the sun is shining above it and we just need to realign ourselves to the truth of what is Permanent rather than fear the temporary illusion of the storm. When we are in the storm we can feel the fear or we can feel the reassurance of knowing that we can depend on the Truth that the sun is still shining and we just need to wait for a break in the clouds.

So, if you are one of the sensitive ones who is feeling the hurricanes of depression and anxiety ‘out of the blue’, try to remember to connect with Source. Rise above the storm clouds of emotion and tap into the Unconditional Love that we are created from and you will begin to feel some relief.

For me it helps to visualize rising through the storm, like I did that day on the plane and plugging myself into the Sun, recognizing it as the Highest Vibration. I imagine myself connected by a chord that feeds me that vibration directly into my being and working on my behalf while I am in the midst of temporary storms.

Be well. Be safe….and if you need me you know where to find me.

Love,
Jade

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Online Transformational Retreat In Progress

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Brave memeAs an option for those who cannot make the Healing Rite of Passage Me-treat Workshop due to distance, finances or scheduling I am considering creating a different container to hold space for similar transforming/healing online.

Of course it would be vastly different as the face to face experience is filled with face to face stuff, like energy work with partners, real time releasing and vocalizing of emotions and situations, real time introspective exercises with small groups/partners, meditation time, real time visualizations, communication exercises and relationship building.

I have been asked if I considered doing an online version of the Me-treat Workshop instead. The answer is no, because I see the need now for real skin to skin contact in our world, however there’s nothing saying I can’t do something else and make it work for the online world.

If you would be interested in learning more about this as it is created and want to be kept in the loop (perhaps even part of the creation process) then email me at jadewillowsong@gmail.com.

As a thank you I’ll send you the script for my newest visualization (from the Healing Rite of Passage) to heal the blockages of ‘not letting go, not being able to ask for help and not feeling good enough’.

~Jade

Fear And Why You Can’t Ignore It

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I had a dream last night that was more enlightening than maybe any dream I’ve ever had.

My family and I moved into a new dwelling place and kept discovering things already in place as if left behind by the previous owners. Some of those things that kept showing up in the dream were a fold up bed that required a code to open, a code that I didn’t have and everyone kept asking me for as if it were necessary for many reasons.

There were also caged animals; a rabbit and a monkey for instance, and many other cages that I was too afraid to look into. The rabbit I was fine with, but the monkey scared me. I acknowledged the rabbit and it only showed up once more later with the monkey, but I ignored the monkey and it kept reappearing bigger each time. Then it was able to get out of its cage willingly. This scared me more, but I continued to ignore it with ‘positive thinking’. I kept thinking, “I’m not afraid. If I don’t give it attention, it can’t hurt me.”

My mother was there too and I told her about the monkey, but she couldn’t see it. As I was trying to point the monkey out to her in the cage with the rabbit, the monkey got out.

Then an exotic cat (a dark colored small lynx or bobcat) with razor claws and big teeth came and the monkey and cat were playing/fighting. Just then my baby came running in and landed on the pair, at which point the cat turned its attention on the baby, grabbed it with its claws and sank its teeth into the baby’s head. I saw the light go out of the baby’s eyes. I tried to free the baby, but the claws were like razors cutting my hands.

Disturbing down to my bones, upon waking, but my soul easily recognized the baby as my own innocence and purity. My Spirit. My Light. My Joy. All of which lately I have been feeling slip away.

Lying in bed, trying to analyze the dream rather than just move on with my day, I realized that my dream was telling me that I was allowing fear to kill my spirit. The rabbit (the first animal to present) is a representation of fear. I acknowledged it and moved on. It never came to do me harm. The monkey, also in a cage (thus establishing it as regarding fear) scared me and I avoided it.

When I first looked up monkey’s message this ever-changing message (ever-changing means that every time I clicked on the page the quote was different) was found

“You have an amazing ability to move through life in a fluid and poetic fashion, whether or not you are aware of it – just don’t get stuck in old habits and routines.”

Followed by this,

“Perhaps you have forgotten that playfulness and entertainment are good for the soul. These animals have a strong capacity for compassion, understanding and bonding. These are all part of our human social make up as well and they serve to remind us that our journey on this planet is not a solitary one. When it comes to solving problems this creature knows how to use their own ingenuity and resourcefulness to solve problems.”

I have indeed gotten stuck in old habits and routines. I established them over the past three years to accommodate my physical needs as I worked on healing my fibromyalgia and other health concerns created by living a life that was sucking my soul dry. The very last (or what I believe is the last of the problems) is being resolved now with acupuncture treatments I began about two months ago. Since then all sorts of things have been stirring up in me. Old things being released that my body literally held onto and stored as phlegm! I took a great deal of time (three years) to devote to my own healing, while still maintaining the practice of holding space for others on a small scale. I had forgotten my ability to ‘move through life in a fluid and poetic fashion’. What I realized I needed and wanted lately are more connections: more friends, more clients and more meaningful activity. As a natural introvert, it has been my biggest challenge, by far. The Monkey affirms that I need to overcome my fear of connecting in person after such a long sabbatical.

When I look up Lynx medicine I find this

“To be confronted by the powerful medicine of Lynx signifies that you do not know something about yourself. Lynx is the keeper of the secrets of lost magical systems and occult knowledge. Lynx has the ability to move through time an space, and to go into the Great Silence for unraveling any mystery. Lynx is not the guardian of secrets, but the knower of secrets.

Lynx medicine is a very specific type of clairvoyance. If this medicine is strong in you, you will get mental pictures concerning other people and the exact things they have hidden, either from themselves or from others. You will see their fears, their lies, and the self-deceptions. You will also know where they have hidden the treasures, if there is any. You never speak of these revelations – you simply know.

If you have pulled the Lynx card, you can be sure that “secrets” are afloat in your life at this time. If this is your personal medicine, you should listen to your higher self. Be still and pay attention to the revelations you receive either in the form of mental pictures or through a high singing voice in your ear. Perhaps you will receive information in the form of omens. You can be sure that Mother Earth is signaling you in some manner. If Lynx is at your door, listen. Brother or Sister Lynx can teach you of your personal power and of things you have forgotten about yourself. Lynx can lead you to lost treasures and connect you to forgotten brotherhoods of sisterhoods.”

This is new. During readings for people, whether with the cards or simple coaching type sessions I have been seeing ‘pictures’ more clearly than ever before. Not always understanding them to interpret but having a ‘knowing’ that I cannot express. In fact, one of the first times, this appeared (talk about hiding things from oneself) I could see how a person did not have healthy boundaries in place. She assured me she does. Thankfully she went on to expand and I was able to point out that what she describes was a reaction, a ‘last straw’ not a ‘healthy boundary’ and I was able to share with her what healthy boundaries in that situation would look like. (This is the pitfall of doing ‘readings’, by the way, some people present ‘closed’ so to ‘not give anything away’ to ‘prove’ the skill of the psychic. Thankfully this person is also a reader and knows to be more open for the greatest value. This is also why I prefer the term intuitive rather than psychic.)

In addition, the need for ‘brotherhoods and sisterhoods’ are exactly what has driven me to bring my online work into a real face to face experience in the Healing Rite of Passage Me-treat and Workshop. My vision is not just of women, but men too, learning to connect to each other in deep spiritual ways, sharing our deepest selves with each other, forming said brother/sisterhood (discount to anyone who comes up with the winning collective label for that!)

For so long we have been governed by a patriarchal society and then there was much focus on celebrating the Divine Feminine. This swing was necessary, but still polar in its operation. There was no place for the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine to co-exist, thus we have created beautiful strong women and no equal masculine matches for them. I believe that through retreats/workshops like mine we can create that balance.

But I digress from the message of the dream...

Fear. Everyone has it. Even those of us who put ourselves out there on a daily basis to teach others to overcome it. It isn’t a sign of weakness or failure, it is merely a Contrast to provide an experience which is ultimately a message from our Highest Selves.

Fear is not to be feared, as my dream reveals. Fear is to be acknowledged. “Oh, there you are…the marker of the furthest point I have gone out of my comfort zone before this moment. The marker of my next frontier. The guiding light into the darkness. The edge of all I’ve ever known. Good. I’m growing.” Do not judge yourself for it. Do not tell yourself “I should be over this by now.” These things make the ‘monkey in the cage’ bigger and more of a threat. Remember, this is a journey, there are no landing places. Meaning we don’t achieve something and have it be done, there are always layers upon layers of discovery.

The other message is we can’t ignore our gifts out of fear either (Lynx) because that will surely kill our Spirit. We aren’t here to ignore our contrasts or our gifts. We are here to explore them and use them to help our brother/sisterhood, or rather what I will call our spirithood (if you come up with something better I will grant you a free admission into the retreat when you buy your ticket, so you can bring a friend for free.)

Growing our lights, reducing the blocks we have is the way we change the world experience. We do this when we reach out and connect to others. We do this when we reach back when others have reached out to us. We do this when we embrace another for their differences and support them financially, emotionally, spiritually, verbally, energetically. We do this when we see we are not in competition but in complement to one another. My pain is not greater/lesser than your pain. My success is not greater/lesser than your success. My story is not worse or better than your story. My failure is not greater/lesser than yours.

Our lights shine brightest when they shine together…

~Yours always, Jade