The Tao of Manifesting

I went to The College of St. Teresa, in Winona, MN, an all women’s Catholic facility. One of our buildings was Tao Center, a guest house run by the nuns. That was the first I’d heard Tao and no clue what it meant. What I knew is that I loved being in that building because it was extremely peaceful, even simply walking in the hallways.

Generally stated, Tao is the flow of energy through the Universe. It is a big word with many uses and even more understandings. It is that way on purpose. The Tao is experiential, thus making it impossible for two people to have the same understanding of it. In short, defining Tao is the language version of nailing jello to a wall.

For purposes of our discussion today, Tao, is the flow of chi (life energy).

Understanding Tao is fundamental to the concept of manifesting. I’ve discussed manifesting before and feel strongly that it has become largely a business buzz word now. However, it still is an important concept to thoroughly understand. The biggest problem I encounter with my clients is their focus on manifesting.

“How do I manifest a better life? A car? Winning the lottery? A better job? More money?  A successful business?”

Manifesting is not a process so much as it is an outcome…a result of the process of Tao.

The process of Tao is like breathing. The outcome of good breathing (and yes there is bad breathing) is fully oxygenated blood. The outcome of bad breathing is not fully oxygenated blood. No one ever thinks about oxygenating their blood when they are breathing, in fact, most of the time no one ever thinks about their breathing at all. Yet they are doing it all the time.

When we are conscious of our breathing we can change the chemistry of our body. We oxygenate our blood fully, we relax our muscles and affect the hormones produced. Our experience is heightened by merely breathing more consciously. So it is with living and manifesting. When we live consciously we affect the energy of our life, our chi, and this affects the things around us. When we raise our chi vibrations, the lower chi vibrations in the Universe become uncomfortable and move further away from us, while the higher chi vibrations of the Universe resonate with us and move closer. Thus our experience is heightened by living more consciously.

The converse is, of course, also true when we do not live consciously and lower our chi vibration.

The focus needs not to be on what we wish to manifest, but how we live our lives. The mere intention of doing something with the purpose to manifest a specific desired result is ‘forcing’ and not allowing Tao to work.

Tao is like water. If Tao is flowing South with the intention of landing you on a particular beach you don’t even know exists, but your intentions are set on landing at a Northern dock you do know exists then you are then forcing and not going with the flow.

This is where the pop culture teachings of manifestation go astray. Some teachings tell you to be so specific in your intentions, down to the last penny on a manifestation check, or the exact color of the make of the car you desire. This is teaching you to force, not allow.

By the same token you cannot be so lax that you put no effort into the journey. Consider yourself afloat on a river. You go the direction the river carries you, but you must steer to navigate through the rocks and rapids. And there will be rocks and rapids, I assure you. Even when you are doing everything ‘right’ (and of course there really is no right or wrong, but just for today, let’s use it) by allowing flow and living consciously. The rocks and rapids are put there on purpose to give us challenges, because only through challenges do we discover things about ourselves that we could not discover otherwise.

The balance is to go with the flow and not get caught in the undertow.

There are times the river will run high and fast. Often this is when the undertow of doubt, fear and overwhelm can capsize you and suck you under. This is sabotage. You might tell yourself ‘this is too easy’ or ‘I am not worthy of this’; these are the beginnings of the undertow tugging at you. ‘I can’t do this’ or ‘I won’t be able to handle it’, tugging even harder. ‘This can’t work’, ‘this isn’t working’, ‘this is coincidence’ etc…you’re going under.

Similar thoughts will occur when encountering rocks and shallow waters. ‘This is too hard’, ‘I don’t deserve this’, ‘I can’t do this’, ‘I won’t be able to handle it’ etc… This is how you know they are misnomers, because you can’t have the same thoughts about two different experiences right? If you are not ‘content’ with high waters and fast flowing and also not satisfied with shallow waters and rocks then what is REALLY going on? Sabotage. That’s what’s going on.

These thoughts are SYMPTOMS of beliefs that lie deep within you. It’s the BELIEFS not the mere THOUGHTS that are the problem. Thoughts are a result of beliefs. Control the beliefs and you control the thoughts.

Your beliefs, not your thoughts are what raise your vibrations. Your thoughts are based on intention, your intentions stem from your beliefs. Consider the person who does nice things when people are looking, but not so nice things when no one is. What is the intention there? From what belief is it originating? What vibrational level do you think exists there?

It is not the WHAT but the WHY that Tao responds to most.

You Get What You Give…Or Do You?

If its true that you get what you give, why do some not get what they expect?

If what you are getting , is not what you think you are giving ,then you need to take a look at what you truly are giving. Odds are it isn’t what you thought.

“But Jade, I am giving and loving. I try to help everyone, but when I need people they are never there for me.”

Being giving and loving are both great characteristics, however the intentions behind that can alter the energy of the experience. When we give with the expectation of receiving love  in exchange, the intentions are not authentic and the dynamic is skewed. We are in fact, attempting emotional extortion. When this happens, because we have aligned ourselves with takers we don’t actually receive the love we were seeking; instead we just end up in a cycle of endless giving. We give, they take and we receive nothing in return.

The key to getting what we give, is to give in a healthy manner. Give to those who freely give to you in return. Establish boundaries, guidelines and limits then enforce them and live by them.

“Jade I do affirmations, I visualize and I think positive, why don’t I have what I want?”

This is a good question. If you are self-aware, but don’t have what you want there are a few things that could be going on; 1) Divine Timing, 2)  underlying sabotaging beliefs, 3) lessons in the making.

Divine Timing is the choreography of the Universe. There are certain events and achievements that the Universe has decided need to present themselves in your life at a certain time. There is nothing you can do to rush that. You can do things and NOT do things to push it off, but you can’t bring desired results faster than that pre-determined choreographed dance by the Universe. So if you truly are doing everything you know to do to bring about your highest good, then trust that and know that its just Divine Timing and you can wait it out.

Sabotaging beliefs can be counteracting your good work. While you THINK you are putting out positive energy, those underlying negative beliefs are negating your efforts. A very powerful one for instance, is “its better to give than to receive.” Can you see how this is a problem?

The deep belief is that it is better to give than to receive and so you create that experience over and over…you give but do not receive, because you believe that to be better, right? But how? Why? That belief has set up an energy block, so the things that the Universe sends you, you send away. Sometimes that shows up with a ‘too good to be true’ thought. Other times it is so automatic you don’t even see the opportunity. You just keep making decisions that keep you in the status quo.

Lessons in the making is self-explanatory. Right here, right now, in this moment you are gleaning valuable wisdom/experience necessary for your highest good. There is value in it and until you can find the treasure you will remain in this experience.

Its not always easy to discover these things on your own, so invest in yourself by engaging in a healing session and metaphysical counseling. Just hit the contact button to schedule your first appointment.


It is NOT better to give than to receive and here’s why…

As children we are taught that it is better to give than to receive

and as we grow older we realize there is indeed a gift in being the giver instead of just the receiver. This tends to validate the idiom “it’s better to give than to receive.”

But it’s a false positive.

A false positive is a seeming confirmation of a theory. Evidence that SEEMS to support a false or incomplete statement or belief.

Tis better to give than to receive is one of those false or incomplete statements or beliefs.

For someone who has received everything they needed, it feels really great to begin to give. A child, for instance, who grew up in a loving nurturing environment and is finally able to give gifts back to his or her parents feels a different satisfaction of giving gifts rather than just receiving them.

This is evidence of a self-actualized individual who is now ready to participate in the give and receive flow of life. You know the saying that you must fill your own cup to be able to give drink to another, right? You must have a well to draw from.

Instead, many grow up being told ‘its better to give than to receive’ by some adult who didn’t have their own well filled and selfishly continued the cycle. Thus, this child believes that ‘if I give then someone will give to me.’ That expectation is what causes the entire dynamic to implode. You can’t have expectations, much less ulterior motives, when you give.

The ‘blessing’ of giving is that it is a natural outcome of having received enough. 

EVERYTHING, and I do mean everything, requires balance. We cannot give UNLESS we receive. It is noted in nature everywhere. Too much sun is a drought. Too much rain is a flood. A nice balance is a thriving community.

Try just exhaling and never inhaling.

All of our life is designed to be like breathing. In and out. Give and receive. We need to give as much as we receive, and receive as much as we give. There must be a balance else we set up a block.

Many struggle with the concept of manifesting and they chase Law of Attraction programs, movies and literature one after another. However, if you have the basic premise that it is better to give than to receive, then no amount of ‘mindset’ work will work. You are giving the Universe mixed messages and when confused (and I use that tongue in cheek) the Universe will defer to the strongest vibration. The strongest vibration is the one most deeply rooted. (This is not always the ones programmed in your childhood, but often times the ones rooted through deep emotional trauma as well.)

You can be too focused on “what am I putting ‘out there’?” that you don’t focus on what you are not allowing ‘in here’. Understanding that is the difference between living the life you love and chasing the life you’d love to have.

Until you are willing to receive back all you give out, you will be denying what is inherently your birthright.

Pulling Back The Curtain On Manifesting

321264_258864004160106_138430183_nI feel like that masked magician revealing secrets of his trade.

I’m about to blow the lid off the ‘Manifesting’ coaching world, by revealing to you the REAL secret to manifesting. No opt in. No link to click. No lead in. No suck along.

I’m just SO tired of undoing all the damage ‘well-meaning’ manifesting coaches and teachers are doing. I don’t think all of them are doing it on purpose, mind you, but its damaging nonetheless.

Here’s the secret

…there is no secret.

Yup that’s it. There is actually NO secret to manifesting. There is not ‘one secret thing you aren’t doing right.’

The word ‘secret’ is a psychological trick used in advertising to get you to click, opt in and purchase. As individuals in this society we LOVE to think we are ‘in’…in the know, in the ‘in’ crowd, or in some other exclusive elite club.

I just listened -painfully, I might add- to *most* of a video, that had click bait and an opt in to get me to the video, that would tell me what was getting in the way of my making more money than I dreamed. Sound familiar? I’m sure you’ve seen it or one like it. My husband, sitting across the room from me, was in wonder as to why I would be listening to such drivel. It was research, pure and simple. I like to educate myself on what my clients are seeing before they come to me. After all, it is always my hope that once we work together they will never ever need to be subjected to such a thing again.

I couldn’t believe it! For twenty minutes I listened before I had to turn it off because it was SO contrary to my vibration it was causing me actual physical discomfort. This woman said almost nothing in those 20 mins. She told a story about how she learned ‘the secret’ to manifesting, the one that ‘the book of Law of Attraction’ left out. How she had followed all the book’s instructions and couldn’t make it work, but then had lunch with a metaphysical life coach friend who told her what she was doing wrong (for FREE mind you). And then (this is my favorite part `snarkastic font`…) she talked about how she did this ‘one thing’ and money started rushing to her, then all her friends wanted to know HER secret and how she then developed a program outlining HER secret and process.

Wait…didn’t I just tell you that she said her FRIEND told her that one simple thing she was doing wrong, and that friend didn’t charge her?????

In. con. gru. ent!

YUP, that’s what she did alright. I had to stop there. I couldn’t go on. I knew all she was going to do now, was try to sell me that detailed program she created out of that one secret she learned from her friend. As far as I can see, all this does is exploit the fear and misbeliefs of people to make money selling empty promises. Quite simply, I’ve had enough.

Enough of the psychological tricks used in ‘personal development’ advertising, exploiting the very trips and triggers we need to be educating the public against. I will not use the mind manipulation and coercion tactics that created the barriers to joy and fulfillment in the first place, in order to get clients who are looking to increase their joy and fulfillment! To me that is a little like the dentist who hands out candy.

It rubs me all kinds of wrong.

I’m going to have to just be satisfied in knowing that those who are following those breadcrumbs are very much not ready for what I have to offer as healer, life coach, mentor or even a friend.

The following is an example of the mindf%&k caused by the subconscious psychological tricks imbedded in the advertising of some of the most popular ‘gurus’ posts and advertisements.

My Client: “I have been working hard on myself and just was having a little harder time with beliefs that didn’t make themselves known”

Me: “When you say ‘harder time with beliefs that didn’t make themselves known.” What do you mean exactly? How do you know it is a belief if it isn’t making itself known? What is your indicator?”

Client: “That’s just it. I don’t know if I have them.  People say if you don’t have bad beliefs about money, you should be making more money. I don’t think I have any bad beliefs about money.”


The psychology of selling is disgusting and what is worse is that people who are presenting themselves as healers are USING it to exploit people they claim to want to help.

I have done a tremendous amount of research in this area the past two years. I am sickened by it. People are using things like ‘fear of missing out’ (limited time, limited number of seats, get it now before its gone), clickbait (“you won’t believe what happened next”), and ‘secrets’ (‘what you don’t know…also part of fear of missing out) -all fear based- to sell their manifesting and healing programs about letting go of fear!!! How does that even make sense?

These are incongruencies indicative that these ‘people’ have not integrated the work they are selling you and I assure you they will find themselves losing a lot as it is not sustainable because it isn’t truth.

Client: “I know everyone has to make a living but I get so aggravated when I see or hear people say how they started out and how they were helped by this person and that person. But now they have all the answers and want to charge you your right arm!”

All we can ever do is be on our spiritual path and at all times be the highest version of ourselves. This ensures that when money, love, opportunity, material things etc… are ready to come to us, we are ready to receive it. (Divine Timing, but we’ll get to that.)

What this means is that focusing on the results does not actually get you the results you desire.

Manifesting isn’t about changing your destiny. Its about making yourself available to it.

Think about it deeply. These things that “people” say, sit back and ask yourself if it’s true across the board? If not then it is not true at all (if its true in the kitchen it will be true in the living room, right?)

IF you can manifest more money by merely changing your beliefs about money (kitchen) then wouldn’t you then be able to prevent loss of money by this same tactic (living room)? What about those who clearly have money yet still hold ‘bad beliefs’ about money (another living room)? Where does that fit into the equation?

And what about in reverse? If just having ‘good thoughts’ brings ‘good things’ (kitchen) then wouldn’t ‘good thoughts’ also prevent ‘bad things’ from happening (living room)?

To me this is another version of blame the victim. “If you don’t have what you want then something is wrong with you, because this worked for me.”

It just doesn’t work this way!!

Here’s another incongruence I want to point out.  All those who market ‘their own thing’ saying they did (insert whatever they did) their way and not the way everyone else was doing it…are what? In fact, selling you THEIR way.  They followed their own path, made their own way, followed no one else’s rules, but now they are selling that exact formula to you to duplicate (“I will show you three steps to…”) I prefer presenting a program that gives you tools and information to enable you to discover YOUR own way, too.

This brings us to Divine Timing.

Nothing will come to you before it is time for it to.

If something happens ‘just like that’ (snaps fingers) when you try something new, that something new was successful in removing a block you had, or allowing a lesson in that prevented you from being at the vibrational level to be able to receive the thing you wanted. The ‘something different you did’ didn’t magically ‘create’ the thing, it merely removed the obstacle you had in place that was preventing the desired thing from showing up. In other words it was already set to show up and just waiting on you to allow it to manifest.

The fact that you wanted it consciously, would be a coincidence, if I believed in coincidence.

Client: “What I have figured out is that to manifest is to truly desire. To desire like there is no tomorrow and just know that it’s gonna happen. That’s the kind of knowing that it takes to manifest”

Not quite…

You can’t manifest what isn’t your destiny.

Desire is a wish. In the beginning it is hard to distinguish the difference between ‘wishing’ and ‘knowing’. Knowing is deeper than desire. You can desire something all you want deeply and if it is not in your highest good in accordance to the plan you laid out for this lifetime, it will not come to you UNLESS it is meant to show you once and for all that it is NOT truly for your highest good.

Destiny is the plan YOU, your Higher Self, (with the help of your team of helpers or your Creator) laid out for this lifetime. For instance, if I determined that I needed to experience not having money as an experience, that I needed to understand what true abundance was without money playing a part, it would be my destiny to not have a surplus of money. That might be what I decided. If I decided that, then no amount of ‘manifesting secrets’ will override that during that lifetime.

For instance I can see how a Higher Self, who had a previous lifetimes experience of a surplus of money, might choose to have a lifetime experience without a surplus of money (for any number of reasons.)

Sounds like a crock of crap? Think about Mother Teresa for a moment, then rethink.

The same would be true if my Higher Self made the decision to experience being whole and complete in myself and decided to not have the experience of a romantic soulmate this go round. No one would have contracted with me and I couldn’t just conjure it up because I ‘changed my mind’. That’s not to say I might not have a life full of attempts, because I can make a choice to commit to anyone, of course; the relationships, though, would not result in a soulmate type romantic connection.

Destiny is something that cannot be overridden because it was set by our Higher Selves before we incarnated, on purpose. The KNOWING my client referred to is our Higher Selves communicating our destiny to us. It’s being in touch with that plan and KNOWING it is coming. This is different than desire.

There are things that can’t be changed, but a million things that can be…they just aren’t part of the ‘destiny’.

This is NOT saying that if you don’t have money now that it is your destiny to not have money!! It might just be a lesson to be incorporated and not be part of your destiny plan as unchangeable.

Destiny is the immutable plan. The big picture outlined by your Higher Self before you incarnated on this planet (or any Universe for that matter.) There is an overall theme you decided on. The theme has to do with the experience your Higher Self desired to understand. Once this theme is set, events must be scheduled/arranged to provide you opportunities to have that experience.

There is the overall theme or goal (big picture) that our Higher Self set. Then large events are planned for the life in order to accomplish the desired experience. Those are the things that cannot change or be avoided. The rest, all the rest, is mutable. It can be changed or avoided.

The analogy of school isn’t quite accurate, because we are not so much learning as we are experiencing and remembering, but it is close enough to explain the idea.

If you enroll in a college course, there is a class name, such as, “History and Appreciation of Art”. This name tells you what to expect in the class. In this class you would not expect to experience Auto Mechanics Repairs, right? Ok, so that is the ‘theme’ your Higher Self set in motion. From there an outline or agenda is created. These are the big events that are scheduled in your life. The BIG events that have shaped the experience of your life.

Just like the agenda in History and Appreciation of Art, there are information, tests, exams and maybe even field trips that are mandatory and planned out for your benefit, to meet whatever goal you had in mind when you signed up for the class. You don’t get to opt out of them just because ‘think’ you’ve gotten all you are meant to. You don’t ‘pass’ until you finish the class. The agenda is in play until the class is over.

Now, along the way, the teacher adds in other things (not on the agenda) based on the interests, needs and feedback of the participants. He or she might even offer extra credit opportunities! This is all the mutable stuff in life! The part where you get out of the class what you put into it. If you don’t show up, don’t participate or are grumble all the time, you won’t get out of the class all that you could or even all that you intended to. However, if you are active, show up, and genuinely intrigued then your experience of the class will be much different. What you get out of the class is directly proportionate to the effort you put into the class.

This is manifestation…where raising your vibration brings a better experience of life. The higher your vibration the more extra credit you earn, so to speak.

And there it is. My manifesting manifesto.

Jade is a Medicine Woman working hard to improve the experience of life for others. If you want to hire her for one on one coaching, healing or to get an intuitive card reading please email or message her on Facebook In the meantime please join her here for a group coaching experience