I feel like that masked magician revealing secrets of his trade.
I’m about to blow the lid off the ‘Manifesting’ coaching world, by revealing to you the REAL secret to manifesting. No opt in. No link to click. No lead in. No suck along.
I’m just SO tired of undoing all the damage ‘well-meaning’ manifesting coaches and teachers are doing. I don’t think all of them are doing it on purpose, mind you, but its damaging nonetheless.
Here’s the secret
…there is no secret.
Yup that’s it. There is actually NO secret to manifesting. There is not ‘one secret thing you aren’t doing right.’
The word ‘secret’ is a psychological trick used in advertising to get you to click, opt in and purchase. As individuals in this society we LOVE to think we are ‘in’…in the know, in the ‘in’ crowd, or in some other exclusive elite club.
I just listened -painfully, I might add- to *most* of a video, that had click bait and an opt in to get me to the video, that would tell me what was getting in the way of my making more money than I dreamed. Sound familiar? I’m sure you’ve seen it or one like it. My husband, sitting across the room from me, was in wonder as to why I would be listening to such drivel. It was research, pure and simple. I like to educate myself on what my clients are seeing before they come to me. After all, it is always my hope that once we work together they will never ever need to be subjected to such a thing again.
I couldn’t believe it! For twenty minutes I listened before I had to turn it off because it was SO contrary to my vibration it was causing me actual physical discomfort. This woman said almost nothing in those 20 mins. She told a story about how she learned ‘the secret’ to manifesting, the one that ‘the book of Law of Attraction’ left out. How she had followed all the book’s instructions and couldn’t make it work, but then had lunch with a metaphysical life coach friend who told her what she was doing wrong (for FREE mind you). And then (this is my favorite part `snarkastic font`…) she talked about how she did this ‘one thing’ and money started rushing to her, then all her friends wanted to know HER secret and how she then developed a program outlining HER secret and process.
Wait…didn’t I just tell you that she said her FRIEND told her that one simple thing she was doing wrong, and that friend didn’t charge her?????
In. con. gru. ent!
YUP, that’s what she did alright. I had to stop there. I couldn’t go on. I knew all she was going to do now, was try to sell me that detailed program she created out of that one secret she learned from her friend. As far as I can see, all this does is exploit the fear and misbeliefs of people to make money selling empty promises. Quite simply, I’ve had enough.
Enough of the psychological tricks used in ‘personal development’ advertising, exploiting the very trips and triggers we need to be educating the public against. I will not use the mind manipulation and coercion tactics that created the barriers to joy and fulfillment in the first place, in order to get clients who are looking to increase their joy and fulfillment! To me that is a little like the dentist who hands out candy.
It rubs me all kinds of wrong.
I’m going to have to just be satisfied in knowing that those who are following those breadcrumbs are very much not ready for what I have to offer as healer, life coach, mentor or even a friend.
The following is an example of the mindf%&k caused by the subconscious psychological tricks imbedded in the advertising of some of the most popular ‘gurus’ posts and advertisements.
My Client: “I have been working hard on myself and just was having a little harder time with beliefs that didn’t make themselves known”
Me: “When you say ‘harder time with beliefs that didn’t make themselves known.” What do you mean exactly? How do you know it is a belief if it isn’t making itself known? What is your indicator?”
Client: “That’s just it. I don’t know if I have them. People say if you don’t have bad beliefs about money, you should be making more money. I don’t think I have any bad beliefs about money.”
The psychology of selling is disgusting and what is worse is that people who are presenting themselves as healers are USING it to exploit people they claim to want to help.
I have done a tremendous amount of research in this area the past two years. I am sickened by it. People are using things like ‘fear of missing out’ (limited time, limited number of seats, get it now before its gone), clickbait (“you won’t believe what happened next”), and ‘secrets’ (‘what you don’t know…also part of fear of missing out) -all fear based- to sell their manifesting and healing programs about letting go of fear!!! How does that even make sense?
These are incongruencies indicative that these ‘people’ have not integrated the work they are selling you and I assure you they will find themselves losing a lot as it is not sustainable because it isn’t truth.
Client: “I know everyone has to make a living but I get so aggravated when I see or hear people say how they started out and how they were helped by this person and that person. But now they have all the answers and want to charge you your right arm!”
All we can ever do is be on our spiritual path and at all times be the highest version of ourselves. This ensures that when money, love, opportunity, material things etc… are ready to come to us, we are ready to receive it. (Divine Timing, but we’ll get to that.)
What this means is that focusing on the results does not actually get you the results you desire.
Manifesting isn’t about changing your destiny. Its about making yourself available to it.
Think about it deeply. These things that “people” say, sit back and ask yourself if it’s true across the board? If not then it is not true at all (if its true in the kitchen it will be true in the living room, right?)
IF you can manifest more money by merely changing your beliefs about money (kitchen) then wouldn’t you then be able to prevent loss of money by this same tactic (living room)? What about those who clearly have money yet still hold ‘bad beliefs’ about money (another living room)? Where does that fit into the equation?
And what about in reverse? If just having ‘good thoughts’ brings ‘good things’ (kitchen) then wouldn’t ‘good thoughts’ also prevent ‘bad things’ from happening (living room)?
To me this is another version of blame the victim. “If you don’t have what you want then something is wrong with you, because this worked for me.”
It just doesn’t work this way!!
Here’s another incongruence I want to point out. All those who market ‘their own thing’ saying they did (insert whatever they did) their way and not the way everyone else was doing it…are what? In fact, selling you THEIR way. They followed their own path, made their own way, followed no one else’s rules, but now they are selling that exact formula to you to duplicate (“I will show you three steps to…”) I prefer presenting a program that gives you tools and information to enable you to discover YOUR own way, too.
This brings us to Divine Timing.
Nothing will come to you before it is time for it to.
If something happens ‘just like that’ (snaps fingers) when you try something new, that something new was successful in removing a block you had, or allowing a lesson in that prevented you from being at the vibrational level to be able to receive the thing you wanted. The ‘something different you did’ didn’t magically ‘create’ the thing, it merely removed the obstacle you had in place that was preventing the desired thing from showing up. In other words it was already set to show up and just waiting on you to allow it to manifest.
The fact that you wanted it consciously, would be a coincidence, if I believed in coincidence.
Client: “What I have figured out is that to manifest is to truly desire. To desire like there is no tomorrow and just know that it’s gonna happen. That’s the kind of knowing that it takes to manifest”
You can’t manifest what isn’t your destiny.
Desire is a wish. In the beginning it is hard to distinguish the difference between ‘wishing’ and ‘knowing’. Knowing is deeper than desire. You can desire something all you want deeply and if it is not in your highest good in accordance to the plan you laid out for this lifetime, it will not come to you UNLESS it is meant to show you once and for all that it is NOT truly for your highest good.
Destiny is the plan YOU, your Higher Self, (with the help of your team of helpers or your Creator) laid out for this lifetime. For instance, if I determined that I needed to experience not having money as an experience, that I needed to understand what true abundance was without money playing a part, it would be my destiny to not have a surplus of money. That might be what I decided. If I decided that, then no amount of ‘manifesting secrets’ will override that during that lifetime.
For instance I can see how a Higher Self, who had a previous lifetimes experience of a surplus of money, might choose to have a lifetime experience without a surplus of money (for any number of reasons.)
Sounds like a crock of crap? Think about Mother Teresa for a moment, then rethink.
The same would be true if my Higher Self made the decision to experience being whole and complete in myself and decided to not have the experience of a romantic soulmate this go round. No one would have contracted with me and I couldn’t just conjure it up because I ‘changed my mind’. That’s not to say I might not have a life full of attempts, because I can make a choice to commit to anyone, of course; the relationships, though, would not result in a soulmate type romantic connection.
Destiny is something that cannot be overridden because it was set by our Higher Selves before we incarnated, on purpose. The KNOWING my client referred to is our Higher Selves communicating our destiny to us. It’s being in touch with that plan and KNOWING it is coming. This is different than desire.
There are things that can’t be changed, but a million things that can be…they just aren’t part of the ‘destiny’.
This is NOT saying that if you don’t have money now that it is your destiny to not have money!! It might just be a lesson to be incorporated and not be part of your destiny plan as unchangeable.
Destiny is the immutable plan. The big picture outlined by your Higher Self before you incarnated on this planet (or any Universe for that matter.) There is an overall theme you decided on. The theme has to do with the experience your Higher Self desired to understand. Once this theme is set, events must be scheduled/arranged to provide you opportunities to have that experience.
There is the overall theme or goal (big picture) that our Higher Self set. Then large events are planned for the life in order to accomplish the desired experience. Those are the things that cannot change or be avoided. The rest, all the rest, is mutable. It can be changed or avoided.
The analogy of school isn’t quite accurate, because we are not so much learning as we are experiencing and remembering, but it is close enough to explain the idea.
If you enroll in a college course, there is a class name, such as, “History and Appreciation of Art”. This name tells you what to expect in the class. In this class you would not expect to experience Auto Mechanics Repairs, right? Ok, so that is the ‘theme’ your Higher Self set in motion. From there an outline or agenda is created. These are the big events that are scheduled in your life. The BIG events that have shaped the experience of your life.
Just like the agenda in History and Appreciation of Art, there are information, tests, exams and maybe even field trips that are mandatory and planned out for your benefit, to meet whatever goal you had in mind when you signed up for the class. You don’t get to opt out of them just because ‘think’ you’ve gotten all you are meant to. You don’t ‘pass’ until you finish the class. The agenda is in play until the class is over.
Now, along the way, the teacher adds in other things (not on the agenda) based on the interests, needs and feedback of the participants. He or she might even offer extra credit opportunities! This is all the mutable stuff in life! The part where you get out of the class what you put into it. If you don’t show up, don’t participate or are grumble all the time, you won’t get out of the class all that you could or even all that you intended to. However, if you are active, show up, and genuinely intrigued then your experience of the class will be much different. What you get out of the class is directly proportionate to the effort you put into the class.
This is manifestation…where raising your vibration brings a better experience of life. The higher your vibration the more extra credit you earn, so to speak.
And there it is. My manifesting manifesto.
Jade is a Medicine Woman working hard to improve the experience of life for others. If you want to hire her for one on one coaching, healing or to get an intuitive card reading please email JudyKlemos@gmail.com or message her on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/j.klemos.808 In the meantime please join her here for a group coaching experience https://www.facebook.com/groups/deepdivingdivas/