Thelma And Anna – A Love Story

In meditation I always receive life-changing messages. The more I meditate the more messages I get and the faster my expansion moves along. Tonight was no exception.

Tonight I was reminded that Spirit has given me a lifetime of training as a Medicine Woman.

I could never describe the visuals of my meditation tonight and maybe it isn’t important to you anyway, but I was taken back to the time I was developing and running a designated unit for Alzheimer’s Dementia patients. Specifically, two of my old patients presented themselves tonight.

Thelma and Anna. These were two wheelchair bound women who met in this nursing home, but became fast friends in their later stages of dementia. Up and down the hallway in tandem they would flow down the corridors. They weren’t even roommates, these two, but during the daytime hours they were never separate. They even ate together. When they did become separated for personal care or something they were always calling for each other. To hear the ache in each of their voices as they called their counterparts name.

For whatever reason, Anna called Thelma, Helen, and Thelma called Anna, Annie. They never wavered from these names, despite their ‘forgetting diseases’.

Thelma and Annie were my original Thelma and Louise. I loved having them in my groups and just sitting one on two with them having cups of tea and conversations of a sort.

Then Annie died.

Thelma became the one desperately roaming the hallways calling her friend’s name. It was beyond heartbreaking now, it was spirit breaking.

There is so much illusion in Alzheimer’s and Dementia, but Thelma and Annie found their way through it, just like we can find our way through the illusions of this Earthly life experience. Thelma and Annie were stripped of their egos, their histories and their ‘accomplishments’ by this dreadful disease. All they had left was their higher selves and Love. Perhaps Annie even knew Thelma’s ‘higher’ name was Helen…

Even when separated in death, Thelma continued to expect her friend to be present. She knew to call for her. She didn’t just forget her. Do you GET that? She didn’t forget her friend even though she had a ‘forgetting disease’. It took her a long time to stop calling for Annie. Eventually she did stop, though. I like to think its because she found her again, in the space within.

That’s what I was reminded of in the meditation today. That the things we seek are within. We are never truly separate from one another…not when they move across country or even when they transition to another state like death. We can find whatever we’ve lost in the space within us. Sometimes its hard to do on your own, though which is why the Universe has given me such amazing experiences to draw wisdom from and share with my clients as a modern day Medicine Woman.

Thanks Thelma and Annie.

I love you. So much.

~Jade

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Reveal

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The after effects of the Self-Reveal Challenge are continued exploration into peeled back layers that is me.

I discovered that I really like sharing myself, much more than I ever have or ever thought I would. Sharing who you are is a gift to yourself. Keeping all that goodness to yourself is a crime…and know what else? Its suffocating!! Better yet, its keeping your hands tied.

So, here’s to never doing THAT again!! I’m an open book!

I’ve been thinking about ‘reveal’ from all perspectives for the past week. All aspects and sides of it. I even looked up it’s origin and that really took me deeper.

from re- ‘again’ (expressing reversal) + velum ‘veil’

Reversing the veil.

Wow. That is powerful.

Reversing the veil we put up to project a certain image out into the world. The veil of protection that cloaks what we feel is too personal or imperfect to share.

I call bullshit.

I spent nearly a decade walking with the terminally ill in hospice and from that honor I learned SO much.

One of the greatest reveals I ever witnessed was in hospice.

We had gotten a new admission on Friday and according to the nurse this was a patient that we were apt to have for awhile, so I waited until first thing Monday to see her. Upon arrival Monday morning, I found a woman anguished and in discomfort. I called into the office to get the nurse out as soon as possible, but it was going to be awhile.

The woman, let’s call her Nellie, had no possessions in her extended care facility room. No pictures, no belongings of her own. As a hospice Social Worker I travelled with everything I might need, including a CD player and reading materials. I put on specific music and began to read to her from the journal of dying, death and grief poems I’d written.

While the music played, I read poem after poem, pausing long enough after each to allow her Spirit to glean from the words that hung in the air. With each poem her face melted into its angelic form. The anguish that aged Nellie disappeared revealing what lay behind the weathering earthly worry and fear had painted upon her. The veil she’d worn for probably forty years or more. By the end of the last poem Nellie’s breathing had shallowed, her face was angelic and nothing about her was anguish. 

Not long after I finished the last poem she smiled broadly, sat straight up with arms outstretched in front of her and then folded her arms into a hug across her chest, she lay back down and took her last breath.

I cannot paint with words her beauty that had been hidden behind the veil she weaved with strife and suffering.

I suspect she was never so alive as when she put it down in that moment before she transitioned.

Reveal.

Reverse the veil, before its too late.

I love you.

~Jade

P.S. The picture is not Nellie, but all beautiful women need to have their picture shared!

Smoke And Mirrors

Illusions…
All of life is a mere collage of illusions. Some more illusionary than others, but all illusion nonetheless.
Life is a lot like a house. On the outside the house may have a certain presentation and you may draw a lot of conclusions from the outside that have actually nothing at all to do with what is on the inside.
From the street you may be able to see inside the house through an open window, but even through this open window what you see is limited. You don’t get the whole picture of the workings of that house and the people in it that make it a home. You have no idea if there is abuse, neglect or unconditional love existing in there. All you know is what you see, but what you see is no where near the full square footage of the house.
Even if you are invited in, you don’t know what is going on in the rooms you don’t see. You also don’t know what goes on in the house when you are not in attendance.
Some people live in houses made all of glass and are super transparent and yet there are still places not visible to general bystanders. Others live in houses built like a fortress without many portals or windows. Still others build a house of smoke and mirrors where everything is twisted and warped to deceive you into believing something else entirely.
Smoke and mirrors.
Even when you seem to witness something you are not witnessing the entire situation. You have no idea what preceded it. You have no idea of anything outside of those exact moments, so to infer a meaning into them is irresponsible.
Life is an illusion. It was created that way on purpose. So that we could have experiences that seem real in a place where nothing really is. The only thing that is real is love and light. No matter what illusion you get involved in, remain in your space of love and light. We are the love and light and to the love and light we will return.
This is where my faith lies.
Some illusions will break you…if you let them; or they can break you open…if you let them.
All things are made whole again.
~Jade
Jade Willow Song is an Intuitive Qi Therapist who works with individuals seeking healing, clarity and guidance on their life path by facilitating transformational experiences. 
Jade serves others with her experience and education in metaphysics, crystal healing, Reiki, Therapeutic Touch, QiGong, guided visualization and meditation. In addition, Jade is an ordained minister with the Universal Life Church.
Jade holds a Bachelor’s in Social Work as well as certifications in Reiki and Therapeutic Touch.

Support Female Personal Developers

I’ve been thinking…(uh oh)….

There is an underlying pattern of misogyny in the genre of personal development. It isn’t intentional, mind you. I’m beginning to theorize it as a result of conditioning. Although ‘touchy feely’, ’emotions’ and ‘naval contemplation’ has been ‘seen’ as a woman’s field just google ‘personal development speakers’, or ‘motivational speakers’, or ‘personal transformational speakers’ images and you’ll find the majority are males.

And these males? They collaborate with males. They might have women on their teams behind the scenes but they partner up with males or they cite other male professionals as resources.

But here is where it really hit my heart… as I observe polls asking for recommendations for self-help gurus, the majority of answers, EVEN FROM WOMEN, are men. This is where the real misogyny is taking place.

Confidence and the presentation of it, is at the heart of this.  What do I mean?

Men take up more space and aren’t ashamed of it.

As I watch some of my favorite online male counterparts I am in awe at how some manage to be charmingly cocky (I do not tend to favor cocky otherwise) to kindly confident. They make no apologies. They don’t seem to cater to anyone and they are bold. BOLD. Not as in daring so much as they speak like they know their shit is TRUE. They take up space without asking permission.

As I watch some of the familiar online female counterparts I see some trying to wear men’s pants figuratively and it feels out of place. It comes off cocky and not authentic. It seems like one trying to play like a man as a woman. Rather than just play like a woman.

I am not anti-male, in any shape or form. And I’m not whining about being a woman….I wouldn’t have it any other way. I see the value in balance, but right now there isn’t any balance. Its odd for me to google recognized professional speakers to find male dominance, but see a preponderance of females in the not-so-recognized online world.

I understand nature, so I don’t see this as something ‘contrived’ by humans. Look at almost any species and you’ll find the male dressed in the brightest, boldest colors, loudest call, most aggressive and most recognized. It’s in their nature. The bolder look imprints upon us, so when we think of a peacock it is the male peacock that immediately comes to mind. Same thing for a lion, a cardinal or a deer. Males natural tendency to be more aggressive makes them more notable and memorable.

So, I’m not blaming the men at all.

I just want to bring awareness that just because a female is not all bold and aggressive does not mean she is not as capable of serving, especially in the personal development arena. We have ‘softer’ ways, like the gentler hues of the female peacock vs the bold colors of her male counterpart.

I want to remind my female counterparts that you don’t need to ‘sell out’ to find success. Don’t try on the bold male colors that aren’t your palette. Titles like ‘badass’, ‘gangster’ and ‘warrior’ feel disingenuous to me.  It seems like a false sort of confidence.

Does that make sense? Does anyone else feel the energy incongruence thing happening here?

Confident women, ARE. When I think of confident women in the personal development field I think of Iyanla VanZant, SARK, Brene` Brown, Marianne Williamson, Maya Angelou…just off the top of my head.

I cannot, by any means state that any woman who uses these terms in disingenuous, I’m saying to me it feels like we women have been sold a load of men’s suits and have been trying to tailor them to suit us, rather than just wearing what suits us authentically.

If you are an authentically bold woman with a more masculine energy, GO FOR IT!! But if you are not, please don’t try to emulate a male’s approach to what you are doing. And please don’t think I’m suggesting you just substitute ‘badass’ with ‘goddess’ either. It’s perfectly ok to just BE, without a popular label.

I just want to remind everyone of the abundance of capable, effective and inspiring female personal developers out there and suggest you recommend them to your friends as readily as you do our male counterparts.

Our society is masculine heavy. We NEED a balance of yin and yang to reach our full potential. We NEED the bold brash yang energy of the male workshops that get you all pumped up and ready to break free of the astral gravity holding your ass in the chair in front of the TV. But we also all NEED the gentle beauty of yin energy in the female workshops to get you to really connect with your life force energy.

*Full disclosure, I confess, this post was written mainly for myself, as a reminder to not see my male counterparts as more successful because they are louder and brighter and seem to have more engagement and to quit trying to tailor suits for my womanly shape.

 

~Jade

Jade Willow Song is an Intuitive Qi Therapist who works with individuals seeking healing, clarity and guidance on their life path by facilitating transformational experiences. 

Jade serves others with her experience and education in metaphysics, crystal healing, Reiki, Therapeutic Touch, QiGong, guided visualization and meditation. In addition, Jade is an ordained minister with the Universal Life Church.

Jade holds a Bachelor’s in Social Work as well as certifications in Reiki and Therapeutic Touch. 

How To Get Through Recent Emotional Storms

20634261798_657dba9441_oI’ve only flown on an airplane a handful of times in my life and while most of them have faded from memory two stand out. The first one was my trip home from Disney Land bringing back a Minnie Mouse stuffed toy the size of me. The second one I remember was more epiphanic.

I was in my twenties and traveling alone. It was dark, stormy and there was question whether the flight would be cancelled, but in the end we were cleared for take off. It was as dark as night and raining hard. I had a window seat and watched the lights on the runway fly past as we left. I kept watching out that the window as we ascended and something miraculous happened. We ascended through the storm clouds and in seconds the sun was so bright I had to squint and there was no rain.

Below me I could see the entire storm system. It looked like a floor of clouds.

It had never occurred to me before that moment, that the sun would not be affected by the storm. I hadn’t really examined my thought around it before, but I suppose I imagined the clouds going all the way up to the sun (even though now that makes no sense).

There are moments when you realize that concepts of your childhood have overstayed their welcome by limiting your experiences. This was one of those moments for me. Decades later and I am still learning from that realization. It applies to so much more than even I first imagined.

The sun is always shining. It is never not on fire, never not glowing, never not illuminating, never not radiating, never not warming…never not alive. Things like night, storms, clouds, rain etc…are all temporary and capable of changing our experiences, but they are not our truth. The truth is that above the storms, even the worst of them, the sun is still shining and we just need to rise above to see it.

I have met countless individuals recently who are experiencing such emotional turbulence and the one thing they all have in common is not knowing why its happening. These are individuals dedicated to spiritual practices and positive mindset work, so what’s going on?

Many of those currently on spiritual journeys are also energy sensitive (and might not know it) and are picking up/filtering the energy of planet. I don’t think its a coincidence that many of those I am speaking of live in the United States and Canada, picking up on the anxiety and depression caused by the mass conflict in the US.

Is it really coincidence that Hurricane Harvey isn’t even a memory yet while Hurricane Irma hurtles towards our shores, followed by Jose and Katia and now an earthquake?!?! I don’t think so. We (every thing in the Universe and even the other Universes) are all connected. Every person, animal, plant, soil, cloud and star is connected as one, so it stands to reason that our collective energy can affect the weather as well as one another. What could be more symbolic of the emotional storm clouds that the United States has been under for the past year? The division, the anger, the discrimination, the hatred, the intolerance, the inhumanity, the violence – what else could we have manifested but hurricanes and earthquakes…one…after…another?

While this can feel overwhelming as we are pummeled with the relentless surge of depression and anxiety, we need to remember that if ‘they’ (they being those participating in the angst) can affect us, then we can affect ‘them’ too!

Abraham Hicks refers to The Vortex, where the vibrations of our thoughts, feelings and actions contribute in order to create our lives (ok, its really hard to exactly describe that concept!) Others refer to connecting to Source. Still others speak of raising your vibration. That’s all well and good unless you have no idea what that means or how to do it.

This is where the storm metaphor comes in.

The Sun represents Source, The Highest Vibration or The Vortex as you will. It is always there no matter what we can see from our vantage. It is Truth. The storm clouds, thunder, lightening, blackness and even nighttime represent the challenging times in our lives. They are temporary illusions if you will, as they give the appearance of separating us from the sun, but if you raise yourself high enough you find the Truth, that the sun is never blackened out, we are only disconnected from it – and even that is an illusion.

Now, when the storm rolls in we can imagine that the storm will go on forever, or we can remember that the sun is shining above it and we just need to realign ourselves to the truth of what is Permanent rather than fear the temporary illusion of the storm. When we are in the storm we can feel the fear or we can feel the reassurance of knowing that we can depend on the Truth that the sun is still shining and we just need to wait for a break in the clouds.

So, if you are one of the sensitive ones who is feeling the hurricanes of depression and anxiety ‘out of the blue’, try to remember to connect with Source. Rise above the storm clouds of emotion and tap into the Unconditional Love that we are created from and you will begin to feel some relief.

For me it helps to visualize rising through the storm, like I did that day on the plane and plugging myself into the Sun, recognizing it as the Highest Vibration. I imagine myself connected by a chord that feeds me that vibration directly into my being and working on my behalf while I am in the midst of temporary storms.

Be well. Be safe….and if you need me you know where to find me.

Love,
Jade

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Beautiful – It’s Not What You Think

IMG_20170904_104700I love to do a good face mask. My favorite is Aztec Secret Indian Healing Clay mask made from Calcium Bentonite Clay. I love it because I feel like it actually digs deep down and pulls stuff out of my pores and afterwards my skin glows. I find it an analogy for so many things. Digging the crap out of your internal psychoemotional pores and sloughing off the dead surface layer to allow the deeper radiance to shine through.

Its also an analogy for something else. As I endeavor to do more videos, I am more aware of my appearance and notice myself weighing this feature against another when setting things up. I often opt out of doing a video because I don’t feel like showering and putting on make up. As I looked into the mirror while putting on the mask and cherishing this moment of indulgence, it hit me.

Not all moments of beauty are beautiful.

To prove it, I took this picture. (This face never fails to make my hubby laugh.) Aside from that though it caused me to think about other non-beautiful moments of beauty. Pictures like that fireman carrying the child on 9/11, or childbirth, or a mother’s face just after giving birth as she holds her newborn all sweaty and fatigued.

But there are many many MANY more non-beautiful moments of beauty that we can’t take pictures of and might not even recognize as such. Moments of ferreting out those thoughts, beliefs and emotional patterns that don’t serve our spiritual destiny. Ugly stuff. It feels uncomfortable, awkward and sometimes seemingly painful, but in the end the beauty it creates in our lives is limitless. Without these non-beautiful moments of beauty we could not explore our true beauty.

Right now, I guarantee there are non-beautiful moments going on right now in your life that you can’t embrace for their hidden beauty. I know I have a shit-ton of them right now and I was completely overlooking them.

As a Intuitive Spiritual Transformation Facilitator I fall into the trap often of thinking I need to present a ‘perfect package’, like so many others do, to prove I’ve ‘made it’ and therefore worthy of getting paid to walk with others on their journey. Pfft, as if there were a landing space called ‘success’ in life! There are no landing places. This is a journey and there are hills, valleys, mountains, curves and steep grades, but no landing places. We stop to catch our breath then we keep moving. The only landing place is the present moment we are in. In each present moment there are gifts…some are beauties and some are uglies.

Instead of hiding mine, I’m going to share and I hope you will too. Getting the uglies out into the daylight can help us see their hidden beauty. Here we go…

These are the Uglies I can get caught up in: My husband had a brainstem stroke in January of this year. He is the bread winner of the family currently as I struggle to get my business going. My daughter has been in a dark place since her father died a year ago. I’m in court fighting his deathbed widow over my own retirement funds. As a result of a kylego I created, envisioned and organized an amazing two day transformational retreat/workshop. Despite my excitement and  forward feeling of achievement not one person has registered. My husband is in construction and we got stiffed just under $7,000 on a tiling job this month. Subsequently, our mortgage automatic payment bounced. I broke a tooth about a month ago and made arrangements to pay half at the first visit and half at the second visit to get it fixed. Because of being stiffed we didn’t have the resources to go back for the second visit.

Now here are the beauties that have shown up as a result: My husband’s recovery has been amazing. With a combination of mindset work and energy healing work he was the shortest stay in the rehab unit they have ever had. He went back to work the Monday after he was released, with caution. He was back to driving within months. The lasting effects are minimal and isolated mostly to short term memory loss and expressive communication. My daughter has moved back home to heal from her loss and has turned a corner in the darkness that grief can be. I just won an important appeal in my court case. Although right now no one else will experience my amazing retreat I have done some really phenomenal work creating interactive, reflective and transformative individual, paired and group exercises all ready and waiting to go for future retreats/workshops and client work. The best part is that I got to do that creating. The only thing I love more than creating transformative experiences is facilitating them for people. Despite getting stiffed on $7,000 worth of work, we kept the lights on. We didn’t miss the mortgage payment, because although the one contractor failed to pay, my hubby had secured another job. It was enough to cover that mortgage payment (the deposit was made hours after the automatic payment was kicked) as well as some other necessities.  My temporary crown is holding nicely and we shall soon have enough money for me to go back for the permanent one because work is lined up.

I can even go back further to three years ago when I quit my 28 year career to move across two states where we bought a house with no money and no credit; and when I had fibromyalgia and was living with an average daily pain of 7-8, to now when my average daily experience is a pain level 1 with no meds.

I could go back even further because at 53 I’ve come a long long way baby…but I won’t. 🙂

The point is we have a tendency at times to define our journeys by the distance we have yet to go, and by lamenting things that don’t show up the way we think they need to and thus overlooking the multitude of ways we manifest abundance and miracles. When you are stuck in “what am I doing wrong that I can’t manifest what I want” remember your ‘success’ is about the distance travelled not the distance yet to go…

*Please share your ‘uglies’ either in words or pictures below! Let’s all be real and share our non-beautiful moments of beauty with each other!

Online Transformational Retreat In Progress

Brave memeAs an option for those who cannot make the Healing Rite of Passage Me-treat Workshop due to distance, finances or scheduling I am considering creating a different container to hold space for similar transforming/healing online.

Of course it would be vastly different as the face to face experience is filled with face to face stuff, like energy work with partners, real time releasing and vocalizing of emotions and situations, real time introspective exercises with small groups/partners, meditation time, real time visualizations, communication exercises and relationship building.

I have been asked if I considered doing an online version of the Me-treat Workshop instead. The answer is no, because I see the need now for real skin to skin contact in our world, however there’s nothing saying I can’t do something else and make it work for the online world.

If you would be interested in learning more about this as it is created and want to be kept in the loop (perhaps even part of the creation process) then email me at jadewillowsong@gmail.com.

As a thank you I’ll send you the script for my newest visualization (from the Healing Rite of Passage) to heal the blockages of ‘not letting go, not being able to ask for help and not feeling good enough’.

~Jade

Is This You Or Someone You Know?

Does anyone ever feel like they’re just not meant for this life? I know how blessed I am. I live in a developed country, I have a family, friends, a house, animals who I adore and a job. Everything people who are less fortunate would die for. But I’m still not happy. I feel so forced. I just want to be running wild and free, a natural woman, with animals and living off the land. I don’t want the troubles of money, the social media, the modern life. Is that really even natural for humans? Is anyone really comfortable living like this or is it just something we have to accept because everyone else does. My head hurts because it just can’t cope with what society wants from me  ☹️” ~Woman A
“Im with you! Feels so pointless and empty at times. On my good days [I’m trying to] work towards a more fulfilling life but am not really sure how to get there or if its worth it etc etc. Its is society not us thats wrong, take each day as it comes is all you can do. Stay strong we will get there…x Woman B in response to woman A
“Can I ask for guidance again? My mother wasn’t the warmest individual growing up. She’s someone multiple therapists have told me to cut out of my life, even if it’s just until I’m stronger. I’ve gone through much of my adult life in an off and on relationship with her because of her controlling nature. When I was a child I was often compared to other children and asked why I can’t be like someone else’s kid or why their kid, who’s “slow” (her words, not mine) would be doing better than me. I was locked in closets, kicked out of the house at night, told she wished I wasn’t hers, which didn’t end until 7th grade…”~Woman C

Is this you or someone you know? This is just a sampling of what I’ve been hearing lately. We as woman have suffered under patriarchy. That is not a feminist or anti-masculine thing. We can only survive in a balanced society and this is NOT that!

This feeling, THIS longing, THIS UNSETTLING is why the Healing Rite of Passage was created. Men and woman are invited to join in the Feminine Rising that this will be. Its not male bashing and it isn’t ‘woman stuff’ it is just a connecting to the feminine yin energies that have been ignored for centuries now. We need to connect to Mother Earth AND Father Sky. To Grandmother Moon AND Grandfather Sun. We can ONLY be our highest selves, live the highest version of our lives and have the grandest experiences when we are balanced in masculine and feminine energies.

We HAVE to heal the wounds of the past that keep harming us. You don’t know how to ‘get there’ because no one taught you to look inside yourself. And you can’t do it with the eyes that society has taught you to look through. It has set you up to fail.

There is SO much you can do to get so much more out of life! I can help you unlearn everything you’ve learned that is actually getting in your way. You have to go deeper than just meditating and gratitude journalling. You have to unravel all the manipulative programming EGOS set in play. You have learn the truth about how the Universe works by understanding and working WITH (not against) the three Universal Laws and their seven principles.

Universal Laws

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The Secret Misogyny

Um ok. I don’t know exactly how to discuss this out loud here. So that means this is exactly where the discussion needs to happen.

 

I’m about to talk about ‘The Secret’.

 

I never read the book. I had never seen the movie…until today. I don’t know why I felt the urge to watch it today other than I was looking for documentary-ish enlightening sort of things and I thought maybe I’d watch to see if my impressions of it are accurate.

 

Let me explain. I’ve never wanted to watch it because it was ‘pop culture’. Anything that has become a fad usually is not something that resonates with me. I find mass acceptance is just the flip side of mob mentality, no thank you. In addition, what I witnessed from other people who drank The Secret kool-aid, seemed to be of the notion that thinking positive is the magical answer to whatever ails you.

 

I know better.

 

I haven’t finished watching it yet, and I may never (but right now its still playing)…I’m disgusted. Really. Really disgusted.

 

So, far it is doing nothing more than supporting the notion that we are not complete in and of ourselves. It supports the notion that we need ‘something else’ to make us happy and whole, by its teaching of how to achieve that ‘something’. Furthermore, from what I’ve seen thus far its focus is solely on materialism.

 

My initial impressions were dead on. Its simplistic and in my opinion still keeps the REAL secret a secret. There are three Universal Laws, (not just Attraction) and there are seven contributing principles. (Full disclosure, these are MY framework of understanding. Other people have as many as twelve laws and no principles.) by not explaining the other Universal Laws that are equally important and work together with LOA to find the happiness of life.

 

Second (and this is something I have never heard anyone speak to and that is disgusting to me) why are there predominantly white males who ‘know’ the secret?

There are two women and I think three people of color in the ‘teachers’. How has no one mentioned this?

 

Rhonda Byrne wrote it! Why is it that we need 1) men of 2) light skin to give it validation? Granted this was 11 years ago but that really isn’t that long ago, that this should be so prevalent! Where are Iyanla VanZant, SARK, Oriah Mountain Dreamer, Marianne Williamson just to name a few? Why do we constantly give up ‘experting’ to the men? Seriously, ladies we need to look at our biases! We see other women as competition and support the men! Do you not see how self-defeating this is?

 

We will never be whole while we keep giving our power away!!! And the power of validation is incredible!

(Think of it like celebrity endorsements – the product may or may not be awful but if a celeb endorses it people will buy it). We give away our power when believe something just because some celeb (or white guy) says it!

 

When I look to see who comes up when I google ‘motivational speakers’ again I see a sea of male faces! A disproportionate representation of what I see out here in the trenches! This reminds me of the irony, of all famous chefs being male, while cooking has been viewed as ‘women’s work’ in most cultures, forever.

 

I see NO men in these trenches out here! I see none. Not one in my groups. Not one in other groups (ok, maybe ONE) and not one in my feed here on Facebook.

 

Unless this movie ends with ‘and the real secret is about creating inner peace’ then I am sticking by my original dispassion for it. In fact, heighten that dispassion, because I have this still running as I’m typing this and only more white men are showing up.

 

Ok, 36 mins in and I’m done. I can’t watch anymore of this!

 

I’m not male bashing.

Not. At. All.

I AM doing two things 1) advocating for co-creation and all that means, and 2) imploring women to stop giving away their power through their conditioned bias.

Why do we (as women) put our money towards elevating men over women? When you, as a woman, are asked who inspires you, whose resource do you provide? Who’s name falls off your tongue and across your lips first? Wayne Dyer? Tony Robbins? Rev. Dr. Michael Beckwith? Kyle Cease?

Life is about balance and until we can achieve a healthy balance of male/female our lives will not be peace filled. We need to balance our own feminine and masculine energy so that the feminine and masculine can be balanced in our world as well.

As women we ‘claim’ sisterhood, but then we tear each other down quicker than you can spit. And I know why. The current establishment likes it that way. The men currently yield more power, times are changing though so they devise things to pit women against one another if they want to be accepted into the boy’s club. That’s where it started. Then they tried to turn us into men by taking our demand to be treated equally to mean ‘the same’.

Anyway, I am on a mission now to spread my message across the land. The message of new healing. Healing the old systems that continue to keep the wounds fresh and open. Healing the old systems that continue to wound over and over again in new ways. Healing the gaps between men and women.

My workshops are and always will be open to men and women, because until we are all healed, none of us are healed.

In the comments below please take a moment to plug some of your favorite inspiring women (famous or not yet famous), include their names and links to their websites, Facebook page, or other social media connection.

(And please, watch Happy instead of The Secret, and take my self-study course which gives the whole secret and nothing but the secret! xoxox)

~Jade

Always The Teacher, Forever A Student

PSA to ALL coaches: business, life, copy editing, marketing, spiritual,(insert any other kind here) and anyone looking to hire one.

 

The moment you forget you are also a student, is the moment you cease to be a teacher. ~Jade Klemos

 

I’m beginning to understand why people become a ‘coach’s coach’. Speaking about the online world of life, spiritual and business coaching right now, I feel the popular ones are not awesome and the awesome ones are not well known.

 

Those who are really BIG (aka not online) don’t do one on ones, they can’t. In some way they delegate it out by doing large group things with facilitators, write books, do shows, etc… TOTALLY awesome! But then, who is left to give that personal one on one that can be so valuable in certain stages? We all have a place in this world, and there is more than enough for all of us, that isn’t what this is about. Right now, I’m feeling responsible for my peers…the ones that aren’t really ready to be coaches yet…

 

Its not enough to just be my amaZING self! I want others to be amaZING too! I want to share everything I have learned, that took my life from a container so small that it was strangling my spirit, to a limitless container that enables my spirit to soar and shine.

 

 

Many of you know my story, many of you don’t and most of you have never heard of me. Believe me…I’m trying to remedy that! 🙂 I’ve been just about everywhere. I’ve been standing on a train track staring at the oncoming train with eyes full of pain and tears of relief. I’ve been all alone in a crisis with my child. I unlearned how to not say no. (You might have to read that last one a few times. I get it, but in truth that’s how it is. We are taught how NOT to say no, so we have to unlearn not saying no so we can understand how to say yes to ourselves.) I walked out of my 20 year marriage after over two decades of emotional, financial and psychological abuse. I’ve been at the register when they pulled out the scissors (you either know what that means or you don’t.) I’ve pretty much been just about anywhere you can imagine.

 

 

And yes, I got myself here. Here in a place where there are no scissors (ok I do have scissors but not SCISSORS), no churning stomach all the time, no butterflies of fear, no being alone in a crisis not knowing how to handle it and a place of saying YES to myself all day, everyday for the rest of time. And absolutely no more standing on train tracks. I got here by understanding how I got to each of those other places, so I never go there again. I learned.

 

 

But I didn’t land there.

 

 

I didn’t just figure out how I got there and poof I was ‘done’. I also didn’t figure out my how and then sell it to others as the answer for them.

 

I figured out how to assist others in figuring out their own how, too. Because, while our essences are similar they are not the same. I don’t teach anyone how I did what I did. I teach others how to find their own way. Make their own path out. I have the tools I’ve collected. I’ll assist. But its really not YOUR path if I’m designing it, is it? And that’s what I’m about…helping others design their own Sacred Path.

 

As a Human BEING Coach I want to share. My life only gets HUGER when I do! Not everyone will resonate with my style. Not everyone will need one on one work. Not everyone will need the same thing, so a multitude of coaches – AWESOME coaches – must be available to meet the need!

 

I KNOW they are out there, but these other coaches…these not yet ready to be coaches…are creating other problems. And they don’t need to! They’d be so great if they could just get out of their own way. Stop hanging out in EGOS and start really connecting with spirit at those moments! 

 

Coaches, please be humble enough to look at yourself and see if you are really ready to help others create their own Sacred Path, not recreate your own. If you are unsure, please find a coach who is; one who is not trying to recreate you in their own image.

 

If you are sure you are not just recreating your own path for others, double check.

 

Coaches: 

Stay grounded.

Emanate from your heart.

Understand you never ‘land’.

You are always the teacher.

You are always the student.

The moment you forget one, you cease being both.

 

Seekers, please empower yourselves enough to know you have the wisdom within you to find the right coach for you. Use your smarts, but use your heart too. Don’t fall for the candy in the window…photo shoots are sculpted to sell you their lifestyle. Don’t fall for the fancy house, cars, first class airplane seats. All staging. Look for someone who shows you the inside of their life, watch how they interact in their group. Do they have substance or do they just talk about having substance? Choose someone who walks their talk…

 

Seekers:

Stay empowered – no one can ’empower you’, but you.

Emanate from your heart – don’t fall for FOMO, there’s no such thing.

Understand you never ‘land’ – this is human evolution.

You are always learning.

You are always teaching.

The moment you forget one, you fail to do either.

~Jade