There are few terms that raise the hairs on my metaphysical neck more than, “I empower women”. I’ve seen a trend, the past few years, of many entrepreneurs and coaches introducing themselves with the phrase, ”I help women, by empowering them to…” Although their heart is in the right place, these women, in an effort to help other women, haven’t made it far enough up the road of personal development yet to realize that we are born empowered, thus to empower another is impossible. Its like giving someone permission to breathe.
You are power. And if you don’t feel powerful, its because you’ve given away your authority, not your power and that is a very different thing.
Power is our birthright. Its more than our birthright, it is what we are. We are power. We are never not powerful. From the time we are born however, we are conditioned to hand over our authority making us feel less powerful. Parents exert parental authority and fail to honor personal authority. A seemingly innocent event such as forcing a small child to give an older relative a hug when the child has indicated discomfort. Academia exerts scholastic authority and fails to honor personal authority by shaming, degrading and only teaching to a small percentage of students’ skillset. Some religions often exert complete spiritual authority obfuscating personal authority in the matter altogether.
We are conditioned out of our authority, by those who live fear-based, because it is far easier to control people when they believe they don’t have choices. When you don’t have personal authority you don’t see how many choices you have. Taking back your authority is as simple and complex as realizing you gave it away in the first place. You have every right to expand your personal authority by distinguishing what resonates with you and what does not. What raises your vibration higher and what weighs your vibration down. A simple question to ask yourself in establishing personal authority is “does this ring true for me?” then listen to your own answer. Don’t think about it, feel it. Does is make you feel lighter or darker?
We are empowered by our very incarnation. We are creators, the creation and the result of that creation. Every single moment we make choices that affect our creation. Every. Single. Moment. Each one no more or less powerful than the other. You might think there are smaller choices and bigger choices, but that is part of the illusion. In fact, often it is the seemingly small choices that have more impact than the perceived big ones. Begin by examining your beliefs and where they came from. Were they of your experience and interpretation or passed down/acquired from others?
Being empowered means being aware of your personal authority and valuing each choice you make (big or small). This is where your power really is…in the present moment. Each and every present moment you experience is creating the next moment and its impact.
I love you.